tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post6831002323159062009..comments2024-03-24T00:23:36.772+00:00Comments on Mad About Meghan: Meghan To Discuss Royal Foundation Next Week & The Met Investigate Racist Hate Crime!Adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11799152261801421558noreply@blogger.comBlogger134125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-56614787026066364552018-03-03T20:34:23.432+00:002018-03-03T20:34:23.432+00:00Thank you for your post. I feel the same way as yo...Thank you for your post. I feel the same way as you do about your daughters having this beautiful strong woman of color in a high position I remember crying when Obama won... tears of joy as I felt that was a moment I wouldn't see in my lifetime.Melissa Haftinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01762480704325333762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-90614222898427263952018-03-01T03:32:34.075+00:002018-03-01T03:32:34.075+00:00One huge problem is email---what sounds one way wh...One huge problem is email---what sounds one way when you speak it can sound really awful when you write it. Hence the use of smiley faces and such. Maybe we can start over? :) :) :)Allison in USnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-41859129351455907832018-02-28T17:47:46.713+00:002018-02-28T17:47:46.713+00:00🌸 Yep. Queen Victoria escaped 8 attacks and Queen...🌸 Yep. Queen Victoria escaped 8 attacks and Queen Elizabeth also had someone break into her bedroom twice I believe. <br /><br />With Princess Anne, one man was killed when the kidnap attack was made. Probably the only thing that saved her life was that “Anne/Prince Phillip” stubbornness as she refused to get out of the vehicle when they told her to. She replied, “No. Why should I?” She had a very logical perspective. Thankfully. <br />surfer girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03655593111136213050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-4104078903536856802018-02-28T17:39:25.505+00:002018-02-28T17:39:25.505+00:00🌸 So true, H. :)🌸 So true, H. :)surfer girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03655593111136213050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-85045006519768502932018-02-28T17:38:34.903+00:002018-02-28T17:38:34.903+00:00🌸 That is so wise and so sweet, Anon. 15. Thank y...🌸 That is so wise and so sweet, Anon. 15. Thank you for stepping out and extending your caring. <br />Gemma. Everyone deserves a second chance, even it was just a matter of clarity and understanding. Try again? surfer girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03655593111136213050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-11103393227249728872018-02-28T05:51:08.819+00:002018-02-28T05:51:08.819+00:00Gemma, I hope you don't allow this to make you...Gemma, I hope you don't allow this to make you sad. One other way to get over it, is to remember it as some lesson about interaction with others, as an isolated incident which was misunderstood, and come back on board and let the totality of who you are prevail than a case of one incident. In time, you will allow others to know you better, and you will also be able to forget the past hopefully.Anon15noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-77982667321753456572018-02-27T18:54:00.491+00:002018-02-27T18:54:00.491+00:00Gemma, I just want to say I am sure you are not a ...Gemma, I just want to say I am sure you are not a bully! The written word is misleading, and we are strangers, and do not know our personal or cultural circumstances. I am glad Becca explained why " code" has a sinister meaning for her, I thought it only happened in the pictures! We should not take the misunderstandings too seriously, they are bound to happen in an international community. H.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-78961315646863121802018-02-27T01:09:13.821+00:002018-02-27T01:09:13.821+00:00Charlotte, your hard work blogging on these two si...Charlotte, your hard work blogging on these two sites has created a lovely group of followers. You do a stellar job managing it all. Bravo to you for following "true north" on your compass. :) Oliver UKnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-68637828450141192042018-02-27T00:35:24.928+00:002018-02-27T00:35:24.928+00:00There are legitimate factors as you have stated, b...There are legitimate factors as you have stated, but it can also be parallel universes existing same time. The data the government collects for a purpose, and the one the employer determines their decision at their own discretion to meet their business needs and / or their own bias. I believe some, if not all, employers use the “ticked” collected data along with what they want in employees. I think if employers have to meet a quota for whatever reason, they also use the information.Anon15noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-37959246288281036232018-02-27T00:15:40.462+00:002018-02-27T00:15:40.462+00:00H.
I am glad you brought it up so other people don...H.<br />I am glad you brought it up so other people don’t misunderstand it either. The statement in my first sentence was based on the roots of reasons for slavery. It started for economic prosperity which translated to “power” in most cases. Still the daring to force Africans out of their comfort territory had to do with the superior vs inferior concept of racism. The fact that there continued to be systemic racism once again has to do with control of power in one form or another. Economic power had been attained within the last century through education, sport, and skill by the oppressed in a lesser proportion to the “ruling majority or population”.Anon15noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-17741232254053359802018-02-26T22:09:29.469+00:002018-02-26T22:09:29.469+00:00Rosman, I respect your point, but isn't outer ...Rosman, I respect your point, but isn't outer beauty subjective, as it is in the eye of the beholder? I believe physical beauty is only one component of a woman or man who is held in high regard or considered beautiful. Beauty should include ones heart, soul, character, and contributions to family, community, etc. As some posters in this post noted, there are people who judge beauty or acceptability by outward appearance based on their own criteria or beliefs. Combine that with social media, photoshop, cosmetic surgery--then what is the criteria for judging people from any ethnicity, origin or race can be viewed as universally beautiful? <br /><br /><br /><br />English Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12746943660452812330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-24753250128562742172018-02-26T18:36:00.297+00:002018-02-26T18:36:00.297+00:00Replying to anon about checking the box. Of course...Replying to anon about checking the box. Of course institutions like to know. For all the reasons I listed. It is important for public policy decision making including health, education, criminal justice reform. I actually always check any boxes that apply and encourage others to do the same. Information is power. Accurate information even more so. Change comes about when problems can be examined in real terms. It is legal in certain circumstances to “visually identify” for aggregate reporting purposes, but these determinations are never tied to the individual. The federal government is quite clear about this. Source: I am a lawyer for the federal government. For anyone in the USA I do encourage filling out these forms (including the census) as such critical public policy is shaped on this knowledge. There’s nothing inherently nefarious about it. And you do have the voluntary choice to do it or not. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11540874697559872345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-56965215608362996442018-02-26T17:51:59.170+00:002018-02-26T17:51:59.170+00:00Allison, I wanted to respond to you, after I had p...Allison, I wanted to respond to you, after I had posted a fuller wrap up on the original thread. Thank you for your honesty & for sharing your reflections. Please do not feel bad for not speaking up, as I didn't even speak up for myself at first! I cowered because I was intimidated & felt really foolish. It was only the nagging feelings that wouldn't retreat, that eventually forced me to figure out what exactly had happened & why did I feel as I did? It has actually been quite a learning experience for me. I explained, back on the above thread, why the word "code" pushed a button in me. Once I was able to find my voice & then share what my Take Away was from all of this, I felt things organically wrapped up. I believe this was a learning experience. I still am blown away by all the graciousness that was shown to me! I'm deeply touched & humbled. So while I still feel a tad flat, I'm sure I'll have the pep back in my step, as I move forward as a member of this DKB/MAM Community! You all really are so very special! I hope you all know that! :) <br />Becca xoxoBecca USAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07442997694626389677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-21082984686810491432018-02-26T17:51:30.208+00:002018-02-26T17:51:30.208+00:00Dear Becca, I have always looked forward to your c...Dear Becca, I have always looked forward to your comments with Capitalisation! They have become a part of what I like about both blogs. I would really miss you! Hope you can get your Peace and Joy Back Soon! :) Zora from Praguenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-38766635228503776552018-02-26T17:28:54.041+00:002018-02-26T17:28:54.041+00:00This is an international forum, some people don’t ...This is an international forum, some people don’t speak English impeccably. I’m completely surprised that the word code is apparently problematic in the US.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-69957608360773310842018-02-26T17:20:22.377+00:002018-02-26T17:20:22.377+00:00I can’t believe I have been called a bully and rac...I can’t believe I have been called a bully and racist for asking a simple question. English is not my first language, I also have slight dyslexia, so my question was simple curiosity and confusion. I NEVER said Becca should change her posting style, I have no idea how that was inferred from my two sentences. I have always believed my level of English was sufficient, but this incident has now made me very reluctant to post in the future. <br /><br />I have to take a step back from this blog for my own mental health and I’m incredibly sad that something fun and joyful has now turned into this. <br /><br />I also don’t understand why several of my posts explaining the situation and apologizing haven’t been published, while other posts calling me a racist and a bully were allowed. <br />Gemma <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-29407402009999198422018-02-26T17:09:37.098+00:002018-02-26T17:09:37.098+00:00I agree anon 15. I think if we want to tackle raci...I agree anon 15. I think if we want to tackle racism globally, the definition of it must be kept simple, as you said: Prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against someone of a different race based on the belief that one's own race is superior. If power enters the equation, the message is blurred. <br />I am sure you didn't mean it that way, Maggie, but you seemed to justify racism if one is oppressed. I think it is dangerous, because it is easy to feel one is a victim and allowed to hate. For instance, one argument to justify racism is " they take our jobs " Many hate crimes have their origin in feeling robed or oppressed by foreigners. Or even more tragically, think about Rwanda. Hate spreads like fire if you believe you are a victim. <br />I think you agree the hate directed to Meghan is racism, not prejudice, even she if is in a powerful place and as a future member of the RF could be viewed as an oppressor?H.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-20667221695769287022018-02-26T08:32:17.041+00:002018-02-26T08:32:17.041+00:00Actually the British royal family have not been to...Actually the British royal family have not been totally "safe" in the past. The Queen was shot at while riding back after a Trooping of the Colour ceremony and IRA terrorists tried to kidnap Princess Anne in the Mall. Queen Victoria survived several assassination attempts and last century several members of European Royal families died that way. Mingling with crowds to shake hands is quite a recent practice. Annette New Zealandnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-31263225020222207702018-02-26T05:50:54.030+00:002018-02-26T05:50:54.030+00:00Becca, please remember there are a lot of us out h...Becca, please remember there are a lot of us out here who enjoy your comments very much! I am sorry you had to experience that. ❤florida girlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-62642695952669726652018-02-26T02:31:27.091+00:002018-02-26T02:31:27.091+00:00@Anon 19:09: I really like what you wrote "Pe...@Anon 19:09: I really like what you wrote "People travel, meet, fall in love, and have for decades. One step to stop racism is to show there is only one race, the human race." It's exactly how I feel. Wonderful post.Tammy from Californianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-21514160456136282292018-02-26T02:15:28.805+00:002018-02-26T02:15:28.805+00:00This has been such a strange experience. First of ...This has been such a strange experience. First of all I can't even express how surprised & touched I was by the gracious way you ladies reached out to me. I smiled & even laughed. (love the "caps" humor lol)! I wanted to respond, but it's all been a bit of a puzzle to me processing what I experienced & figuring why it bothered me so much? When I first saw the comments aimed at me, I thought it best to take the high road & thank them for their input & change the way I commented. However, I was left with a nagging feeling that stayed with me. It took a bit, but then I realized that: <br />1) I did feel like there was a sense of "bullying" about the way they said what they did. While I'm open to constructive criticism or feedback, I didn't feel right to just take what they said & change myself & how I express myself. <br />2) What also bothered me, was that while I've witnessed some heated debates & disagreements since 2011..... I had never recalled witnessing a poster picking at another poster personally, or making a joke of the way one expressed themselves. It left me feeling like a line had been crossed. If I rolled over & took it, that would be me saying that I thought it was ok for them to attack me, or anyone else on a personal level, instead of just regarding one's opinions. I felt like that was a new slippery & dangerous slope.<br />3) I was still left upset & confused. I wan't clear what else it was that was leaving me so off kilter. It wasn't until I discussed it with my husband, that he immediately caught the bit about "The Code" & said.... Honey, I think it's this that's still upsetting you. (wise man)<br />4) Thus I felt I should share that it wasn't just some bullying about capitalization that threw me off. The Code accusation did really upset me. All this danger is so real & I guess I know too much about these things. There are just some things for each of us, that are no joking matter, & shouldn't be thrown about lightly. <br />Thank you All for your thoughtful, touching & funny words, as you reached out to me. I must admit, it pained me to think of no longer being a part of this community. Especially with all The Royal Events to celebrate this year. It's like catnip to a cat! :) It's much more meaningful to share it all with you, rather than on my own. Your graciousness really warmed my heart. I was & am so touched! So while it may take me a beat or two to get my balance back, please consider me still part of the DKB/MAM Family. xoxoBecca USAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07442997694626389677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-64501094917693537632018-02-26T01:45:51.475+00:002018-02-26T01:45:51.475+00:00I agree with Emma in that other members of the RF ...I agree with Emma in that other members of the RF have been/are being targeted and in MM's case there is the added factor of being bi-racial. (Wasn't there an ISIS threat on W&K's wedding day?) I also believe that jealously plays a huge role here. royalfanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11828752698849878170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-61713230102936878962018-02-26T01:27:14.887+00:002018-02-26T01:27:14.887+00:00Allison, generally speaking, I believe the interes...Allison, generally speaking, I believe the interest has to do with age, looks, relatability, and fashion. As far as William (Kate) and Harry (Meghan) are concerned, I believe it has to do with the interest in them as being "Diana's boys." People are eager to see the next chapter unfold. royalfanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11828752698849878170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-89053215216807423862018-02-26T01:07:00.244+00:002018-02-26T01:07:00.244+00:00Becca, you have nothing, zero, nada to feel foolis...Becca, you have nothing, zero, nada to feel foolish about. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being a happy and positive person...and that's exactly what comes through in your remarks. :-) royalfanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11828752698849878170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-523822918879524553.post-3619582323421021452018-02-26T00:19:10.581+00:002018-02-26T00:19:10.581+00:00Yesterday (the 24th), within the time frame I want...Yesterday (the 24th), within the time frame I wanted to respond, the reply button was frozen. I tried it for other “reply” on this same blog to test, it was still frozen (may be it was my mouse acting up). Better late than never and here is my two cents.<br /><br />Once I became accustomed to your caps, I found it complementary to your enthusiasm. You happen to confirm that as well.<br /><br />Where is Becca USA? Now when you write the “standard” way, it feels flat until I get used to tour posts the “standard way”. You have been on this blog for as long as I can remember, and never read any objection from anyone regarding your style. In my opinion, even those who questioned it here, might have done so out of curiosity. The question about, do you write in “codes” was, well…? Between probing, funny and whatever else one makes out of it, sorry it bothered you. I hope you will continue to post your comments. I especially like your quick updates on some movies you have watched or books you have read. I think you are among those commenters who are real fun of royals. It is nice to see people find enthusiasm in what they really like and enjoy.<br />Anon15noreply@blogger.com