Friday 14 August 2020

"It's Good to Be Home": Meghan Joins The 19th* Virtual Summit

To close the inaugural The 19th* Represents Virtual Summit, the Duchess of Sussex moderated a discussion with founder and CEO Emily Ramshaw today. The 19th* is a nonprofit, nonpartisan newsroom focused on gender, politics and policy. Back in January, Harry and Meghan shared their desire to work with grassroots news organisations, supporting their efforts to provide factual, fair and accurate information. As we've seen with Meghan over the past two years, she's an avid researcher and asked her team to contact the fledgling organisation. Founder Emily Ramshaw told CNN she was floored by the news and "nearly fell out of my chair". Ms Ramshaw added: "The Duchess basically said that the issues that we care about are issues that she's really interested in. Those things include super-high-quality media, gender equity, racial justice." The Duchess Zoomed in from her, Harry and Archie's new home in Santa Barbara.


The Duchess smiled as she told Emily (a fellow Northwestern alumni): "It's good to be home." During the conversation she said she was "just devastated" when she returned to the US following the murder of George Floyd. "It was so sad to see where our country was in that moment. If there’s any silver lining in that, I would say that in the weeks after the murder of George Floyd, in the peaceful protests that you were seeing, in the voices that were coming out, in the way that people were actually owning their role. It shifted from sadness to a feeling of absolute inspiration, because I can see that the tide is turning."



'“From my standpoint, it’s not new to see this undercurrent of racism and certainly unconscious bias, but I think to see the changes that are being made right now is really — it’s something I look forward to being a part of,” Meghan said. “And being part of using my voice in a way that I haven’t been able to of late. So, yeah, it’s good to be home.”
During the conversation, Meghan expressed enthusiasm for The 19th’s mission and vision, remarking on the newsroom’s launch during a pandemic: “You just took that jump and you took that leap of faith. And I think there’s so much we can all learn from that, that in those moments where it might feel scary, you just need to trust your gut.”
“What’s so fascinating, at least from my standpoint and my personal experience the past couple of years, is that the headline alone, the clickbait alone, makes an imprint,” Meghan said. “That is part of how we start to view the world, how we interact with other people.” 
With the November election fast-approaching, Meghan stressed that voting is “incredibly important” to her; she said she’s even been talking to feminist icon Gloria Steinem about it. Meghan encouraged people not to take suffrage for granted, noting that her husband has never been able to vote.'

Meghan discussed the origins of the word 'suffragette' with Emily: "This term, coined by one man in 1906, has stuck as part of a movement. When you look at that, and look through that lens of the power of one person’s influence in the media to be able to shape an entire movement or way of thinking. If women had their voice heard as equally, how different that would have been?" She added: "People are craving change. In the place we’re all in right now, there’s such a moment where people are starting to question the systems we’ve always believed in."



'Meghan also praised Ramshaw as a fellow mother making a difference in the world. "I know what it's like with a toddler," the Duchess of Sussex said, referring to son Archie. "There's not a lot of time."
"When I have these conversations about encouraging people to go out and vote, I think it's often challenging for men and women alike and certainly for people to remember just how hard it was to get the right to vote. And to be really aware and not taking that for granted," she said. "My husband for example — he's never been able to vote."
She added, "I really do hope what you're able to encourage and what we're able to see happen through The 19th* over the course of the next few months is that women understand that their voices are needed now more than ever — and the best way to exercise that is through voting."

Launched in April, the organisation is named after the 19th Amendment, which granted women the right to vote. On Tuesday, it is a century since the amendment was ratified. The milestone was achieved through decades of struggle, sacrifice and protest. Below, protesters outside the White House in 1917.


Over a hundred years later, The 19th* endeavours to continue the spirit of this work: "Today, women make up more than half of the American electorate and are more engaged than ever in our politics - marching on state capitols, voting at higher rates than men, and running for local office and seeking the presidency in record numbers. Yet they remain underrepresented in government and in the nation’s executive ranks. Women and gender diverse people are also underrepresented in politics and policy journalism and in newsroom leadership, which influences what stories are told, how the news is covered and whose voices are elevated."


CNN reports:

'Ramshaw was the editor-in-chief of the Texas Tribune for almost four years. She said she first contemplated a website like The 19th* during the 2016 election, when Hillary Clinton was on the ballot and when she was on maternity leave.
"I was outraged about the coverage in that moment and about how in this day and age, we were still having conversations about whether a woman was too shrill to be president," Ramshaw said. "I have those same feelings four years later. We had more women on the debate stage than we've ever had before [in 2020], and we're seeing those same conversations over and over." The frustrations made her "want to blow it all up and start over," she said.
Ramshaw said on the "Reliable Sources" podcast that creating an entirely new journalistic brand can be more effective than trying to fix these issues from within an already established news organization.
"The benefits of a brand new identity are truly limitless because you are freed from the confines of trying to change a massive bureaucracy or infrastructure," she said. "To be able to launch The 19th* in this moment in history beyond the pandemic, this sort of dual pandemic, of the pandemic within a pandemic of a racial reckoning right now, to be able to build a newsroom that is, 75 percent people of color from day one, to be able to build a leadership team that's three quarters women of color from day one... We have that kind of flexibility in a way that I think a lot of legacy newsrooms don't. And that is such a gift."'

Following the inception of the organisation in 2016 during the election, Emily Ramshaw couldn't have imagined just months after its launch names including Hillary Clinton, Kamala Harris, Melinda Gates, Stacey Abrams and a host of other well-known faces would be on the speaking list. It is a testament to the appetite which exists for quality reporting now more than ever. The full video on electability and women's representation from yesterday is below.


The appearance was Senator Harris' first interview since she was announced as the Democratic vice-presidential candidate earlier this week. Kamala has been a vocal supporter of Meghan for some time. 


Meryl Streep and Zoe Saldana read excerpts from historic speeches by American suffragists.


This area has been close to Meghan's heart throughout her life. During her time as UN Women's advocate for political participation and leadership, she said: "Women need a seat at the table. They need an invitation to be seated there, and in some cases, where this is not available, well then you know what, they need to create their own table. We need a global understanding that we cannot implement change effectively without women's political participation." I've said it before, I think it very likely we'll see Meghan working with the UN in an official capacity again.


The Meghan's Mirror team identified the Duchess' light orange top as a Hugo Boss style.


The light orange top in stretch silk is described as: "A sleeveless top by HUGO Womenswear, crafted in silk blended with stretch for enhanced comfort and shape retention. Styled for a regular fit, this lustrous top delivers a flattering silhouette with a curved hem at the front and a longer length at the back. A concealed zipper at the back adds a clean finish." It originally retailed for $228 before going on sale for $91.


Meghan accessorised with her Cartier Love Bracelet..


And Monica Vinader Linear Chain Bracelet.


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In other news, the Inspired by Meghan and Inspired by Harry campaign in honour of their birthdays continues until Harry's on 15 September. Donations are going to the incredible Camfed, supporting girls and young women through educational opportunities. The outstanding effort will soon surpass $100,000. If you would like to donate or find out more please click here.


Prince Harry has participated in the Netflix documentary Rising Phoenix. Harry has been privately involved since the start, with a representative telling Omid Scobie "the Duke is proud to have been one of the people who contributed to this film, which is a unique and powerful documentary that hopes to change the way people view disability - and tell the incredible story of the Paralympics".


It will be available to stream on 26 August:

'Rising Phoenix tells the extraordinary story of the Paralympic Games. From the rubble of World War II to the third biggest sporting event on the planet, the Paralympics sparked a global movement which continues to change the way the world thinks about disability, diversity & human potential.'

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London hairstylist George Northwood worked closely with Meghan from her earliest days following the royal engagement to her final engagements in March. In a well-written and personal piece for Grazia, Northwood recalls: "My favourite fun memory has to be when they frightened me half to death jumping out at me on my birthday. It was such a silly moment but so sweet that they wanted to surprise me. Meghan has a great sense of humour so we would always be in fits of giggles, but then there would be these really surreal moments where we would sit thinking, "Is this really happening?" We would be sat in the dressing room like, "You’re the Duchess of Sussex, I'm your hairdresser and you're going to walk out that door and be the most photographed woman in the world in a minute." We tried to find humour in those pinching moments, just to stay grounded." George recalled the Australia tour and the level of attention to detail he saw from Meghan choosing earrings from small local designers. He also spoke of being there during challenging times: "When the outside negativity got relentless, I tried to make her feel empowered on the inside."


More from the piece:


'I was on the tour in South Africa when she spoke to ITV about the struggle she was facing being a new mum in the spotlight, and there was a real genuine vulnerability to her at that stage. For what little I could do to make the situation better, as her hairdresser, I just tried to make her feel the best version of herself and empowered. At that time I just wanted more than anything to be a friend and confidant.
Ultimately, she is one of the most caring, genuine and warm people I have ever met. She’s so deeply passionate about what she believes in and wanting to make a difference, you feel so inspired by how much she wants to make the world a better place. I learned so much about myself working with her and Harry. And actually, one of those lessons was what true love really is.
They’re really such a together team – watching them with everything that’s been thrown at them, it made me believe in love and soulmates.'

And that's a wrap for tonight. I hope you all have a lovely weekend!

68 comments:

  1. Thank you Charlotte. It was an amazing conversation between Meghan and Emily. It was inspirational because as a mum you have ideas of what you want to do and how you want to make changes in your life but we always feel we can't either due to lack of help with childcare or the dreaded mum guilt. But here are two women that despite what is going on in their lives and in the world they forge ahead. That can be a source of inspiration for many.

    I also loved the panel discussion moderated by Sunny Hostin. Lots for everyone to learn particularly in the current climate.

    Have a wonderful weekend.

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    1. You are right it's fabulous .
      Meghan & Emily are mervelous and strong women.the Future' s Meghan can be found here.

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  2. "This term, coined by one man in 1906, has stuck as part of a movement. When you look at that, and look through that lens of the power of one person’s influence in the media to be able to shape an entire movement or way of thinking. If women had their voice heard as equally, how different that would have been?"

    Wow. Unbelievable reach of that single voice. A voice out of the UK as well.

    This fact about the term "suffragette" reminded me of another UK man (still whining about being ghosted) who from his position of power is still banging on and on and on about how vile Meghan is. And though I won't be looking for anything he has to say on this interview, I would wager a sizeable sum that he'll find some way to trash it.

    If Meghan or Harry or the Royal Family had been able to counter the clickbait headlines with the truth could things have been different? I suspect not; however, I really don't get anyone (and there are several influentially placed "sources" with much meanness to perpetuated about Meghan) isn't inspired and uplifted by her.

    I'd love to see t-shirts and merch from the nineteenth reading "NEVER TOO SHRILL!" And yes, it has to be in all caps. Shout it to the world. I'll suggest it when I subscribe.

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    1. Hi Philly, I do believe that a great opportunity was missed by the royals when no one spoke out against the picture portraying days old Archie as a chimp. I believe it was an opportunity for the Queen especially, as head of the family and head of state, to call on the British press to be better, to do better, to move past racism, sexism and click bait and focus on actual reporting. While it might not have changed the reporting, I think it would have given M&H a sense of support from their family. I also think the biggest thing the family could have done to help would have been to clamp down on the leaks and reporting against M&H that was coming from not only inside the institution but from family members themselves. In the end I don't think the silence over the last 3 years made the royal family or the institution of monarchy look good on the world wide stage. Various members can talk about diversity, mental health and bullying all they want but the time has come where show don't just tell is needed.

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    2. Well said, Lauri. You're absolutely correct in calling out that moment as one where the Queen dropped the ball. Just as she did after the death of Diana, she failed to read the room on that one.

      In addition, clamping down on leaks is not that hard. All you need to do is fire one of the p*ssers as an example and the rest will most likely smarten up. Have they learned nothing since the Diana days? But it is familiar--business as usual--in royal circles.

      I agree 100% that leading by example and in actions must accompany the talk. Though after decades of cutting ribbons, unveiling plaques, and dropping in on charities for brief photo ops, the learning curve is quite steep and gets a good deal of pushback from those Diana used to call the "gray men."

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    3. Susan in Florida15 August 2020 at 18:58

      I agree with Lauri and Philly . Even if the Queen didn’t read the room, there was little excuse fo the other family members not to have backed up Harry when he made his public plea about racism. And it’s okay for us as fans and admirers of the RF to s say we didn’t like that. I don’t think the family thought H&M would not take the action of leaving, but those were the consequences. Now we get to hear the unimpeded voices of H&M on causes they care about.

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    4. @Susan- I think it’s great to hear their “unimpeded” voices but I wish they could stop referring to their time in the BRF while doing so all the time (less Meghan though). I think it is unnecessary and turns the spotlight in their individual direction. This was a hard lesson I had to learn. Just support, don’t feel the need to come up with your own story and examples all the time. There is actually a term for it that eludes me right now.
      And something for specifically Harry: he definitely needs to back up his own lectures with exemplary actions. Because all the things he promotes, while really good causes, seem not to (completely) apply to himself. And that is a problem in my books. Leading by example he does not. Neither in terms of lifestyle nor behaviour. Taking his child and wife out of the media circus was the only applaudable action and it could have gone down with way less drama. Meghan seems to be much more self aware in every regard. In general I find myself vindicated in that I argued that Meghan will find her path quickly while Harry jumped into the deep end with no real plan or clue. He seems rather shell shocked at the moment. Hopefully he takes a lesson from his wife.
      Belle

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    5. Belle, I think you are right about Harry being 'shell-shocked'. I would hope that not only he take a lesson from his wife, but from others who may help him navigate life on this side of the ocean.

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  3. I rarely take the time to watch videos, but I just watched Errin’s interview of Senator Harris, Meghan’s interview of Emily Ramshaw and the Rising Phoenix trailer. All you readers out there are more articulate than I am. All I can saw is:WOW! Seriously.
    And WOW includes you Charlotte. Thank you, yet again. I will have a great weekend now.
    Renee

    Ps: does anyone ever comment on Meghan’s beautiful eyes? Maybe because I’ve rarely watched her speeches, I was especially impressed by her luminous eyes.

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    1. Meghan's Eyes, are the freedom ' s eyes..!
      She seems to be born again while having her element from before her Wedding.

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  4. Thank you Charlotte for this lovely, very important & timely post. It's wonderful seeing Meghan centered & clearly comfortable again in her own skin, as she & Harry have landed safely in their own home & property. I have found this Anniversary of the Women's Vote particularly reverent, as I am a U.S. Filmmaker (some of you may remember some of my posts on DKB whilst I was filming at various times over in the UK) My current film "Primrose" explores many little or lesser known historical aspects of the journey for Universal Women's Suffrage in the UK. Many of the aspects we address & weave into our story have never been addressed in film before. I have been deep in research on this project for the last 4yrs. Whilst I have several other films that are currently in various stages of development/production, this film will be the first film from my young Production Company, Bcreative5Films. I've been busy with my Writing & Creative Team, based in the UK, virtually from here in the states.

    As frustrating as the pandemic related delays have been, our story will be richer for having pushed pause & soaked up the power of how women's voices have been effected & are currently evolving around the world!

    The longline for the film is:
    "Set in the lush countryside of Edwardian England, a young aristocratic woman supports the women's vote, not realizing the effect it will have on her family."

    The film is set in 1905, just as the Suffrage Movement was on the cusp of going militant.

    The "Primrose" tagline is:
    "We've come a long way in 100yrs... or have we!?"

    If you love PeriodDramas, or are interested in learning more about the nuances in the journey of Edwardian women to find their voices... Feel free to join us on our journey...
    Twitter: @FilmPrimrose
    Instagram: @FilmPrimrose
    Facebook: Primrose The Film

    This is a powerful & exciting time in women's history.... & p.s. who else joins me in thinking that Meghan is expecting their 2nd child!? :) xoxo

    Becca USA

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    1. BeccaUSA...how exciting! Sounds like a film I'll love. Keep us updated as things progress.
      PS...I agree with what you surmise; how wonderful that if it's true they can announce on their own schedule,and that they are settled into their own home. Meghan is settled and moving ahead. Hope to see Harry in his new public role a bit more. He can be a star in his own right as well.

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    2. Susan in Florida15 August 2020 at 18:59

      Brava , Becca ! Looking forward to seeing the project

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    3. Becca, the slew of flowing tops and long hair covering the chest do give me hints of a second child. Works out that she can't go in public much because of the pandemic. I would really like a second child (under the category of none of my business!) so that Archie becomes more of "one of the children" rather than "THE child." And it sounds like a lovely film, Becca!!

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    4. You are right. At any rate, that is my hope also.
      God bless them

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    5. Hooray for you Becca USA! What an exciting film to be involved with, and agree with Beanie G, please keep us updated!!

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  5. She is looking her loveliest and sounding articulate, confident, committed! She is the Royal Family's loss. (Love the view out of her new window, by the way - I'm sure they'll be happy in this beautiful new home.)

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  6. Becca in Colorado15 August 2020 at 02:53

    Another powerful clip from Meghan. You know, it’s really reassuring to see how well she seems to be landing on her feet. I still can’t fathom all of the sh*t she and Harry have been through in such a small amount of time, so to see her looking so beautiful and speaking so eloquently, as always, is uplifting. I do think she gave her royal role her all, but I’m actually becoming excited about the reach they will have outside of the institution. I hope we continue to see a lot of them, especially now that they have a family space. I imagine that, alone, has provided them such relief. I have a feeling that we will really see the Sussexes putting their plan together, now.

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  7. I'm starting to think that everyone was wrong -- Meghan, Harry, Charles, the Queen, certainly William. If Harry had been veering toward his own life, not appearing as part of a triad -- if he and Meghan started their lives together as nonworking royals, perhaps some of the pain could have been avoided. As long as so many people, PR people, palace aides, had so much influence, I think Meghan was doomed. No one wanted her popularity, except maybe the citizens who benefited from it. She really wasn't free, and I hope that Harry's relationships with the Queen and Charles are a comfort to him, so he can feel free, too.

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  8. Dear Charlotte, Thank you so much for making us aware of this fabulous organization -- The 19th*! And thanks to Meghan for making you and so many others aware! Meghan certainly seems to have her finger on the pulse of what’s going on. She chooses to use her spotlight so effectively to lift up and assist those working to magnify women’s voices. I’m just blown away by Emily Ramshaw and this event, as well as by Meghan’s interview with her. What an edifying and inspiring launch! Meghan’s incredible intelligence cannot be denied.

    It’s so good to see Meghan looking relaxed and happy in her own home at last. I loved hearing her say how happy she was to be home. What a relief it must be to no longer live in the straight jacket of Royal protocol with the British tabloids pecking away at her every move. She is truly back in her element, and continuing her work for women’s rights. It’s great to see her like this again. This warmed my heart and put a big smile on my face.

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  9. Meghan looks great. She seems to be glowing. She found a good fit for herself when she asked to interview Ramshaw.

    My only wish is for the couple to finally find enough peace to stop their slight digs at the RF. As a RF fan, I don't really like passive aggresive remarks like "i haven't been able to use my voice" and in this context "it is good to be home". For me, that implies that she hated Britain and the RF muted her. Which might have been true and obviously part of being royal is being basically mute, but that she had known, she escaped it and now she is free. Their side of the story is written in a book. All accounts are settled, they have their dream life in Cali. There is no need to add more fuel to the fire by taking further digs at her in laws.

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    1. Due respect but you’re seeing what you want to see. Her comments were pretty tame and I think if you’re already looking at her through the lens of she hated Britain And the RF, then that’s what her comments will seem like. Both Meghan and Harry’s public comments about the RF have been kind and respectful. And maybe for her it is genuinely good to be in her hometown. She was separated from her home and her family and may feel some happiness in returning.
      I think it’s a leap to say that means she’s hates Britain. She got married there and started her family there and has spoken about her love of Windsor and the Cotswolds. And for the millionth time they didn’t participate in the book. They’ve said it, the authors have said it. I’m halfway though the book and not every anecdote puts the best light on M and H. It definitely doesn’t read to me as their official side of the story.

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    2. I also saw bits of the book and it’s doesn’t look to me like something Meghan collaborated on, it’s just not her style. Harry and Meghan may not be against it but I doubt they approved it.

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    3. Annon 06:27 you say, "As a RF fan, I don't really like passive aggresive remarks like "i haven't been able to use my voice" and in this context "it is good to be home". For me, that implies that she hated Britain and the RF muted her."

      Here is where it's important to distinguish between facts and feelings. To you that implies hatred and the comments "digs at her in laws." The fact is that Meghan was not able to use her voice as a member of the Royal Family. You conceded that by stating that being Royal is being mute. To say so is a fact. She could not use her voice in certain matters. To state facts does not mean that she is throwing shade.

      Also, I daresay we all have uttered the phrase "it's good go be home" even after the most exhilarating experiences away from home. It's not necessary to read anything else into it (which Anon 14:11 has said so well).

      Frankly, their original plan was to operate in two worlds by serving the Queen and the Commonwealth while working on their own charitable ventures and earning their own keep rather than being kept by the taxpayer. Which isn't such an awful idea, but it is a new one. And new doesn't fly well in royal circles. It's been tried before. Let's hope it ends better this time.



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    4. Dear Anonymous,
      i do understand your feelings as a fan of the RF. Yet I think there is a need of healthy criticism like in the times of Diana.
      Diana was a controversial figure and being openly aggressive towards the RF. She did this for personal Reasons - for being hurt.
      Although it was damaging and embarassing for the palaces it put an enormous spotlight on the monarchy.
      In the years following her untimely death the monarchy was able to use this energy, to learn from the past and to strengthen and highlight its work.
      The monarchy needs to evolve like any other being or system. It needs challenge to become better and to survive.
      I feel we are watching old and new leadership approaches clash in a way we see it worldwide. I feel the female energies in the Royal Family would have worked it out differently- they would have agreed on budget sharing and sharing attention for the Good of all of them. Yet the Firm is still dominated by male energies, very competitive, very hierarchy driven, less caring. I doubt this will secure them longevity in a world that is changing towards more equality and individuality.
      I liked Charles speaking out on many subjects which are important to him and taking the criticism for it. He used his voice so we can know him better and the issues he cares deeply about. In our German constitution our head of state is allowed to criticize and to use his voice if he or she feels it is necessary. The President has no political power- but he or she can join in the discussion, give a veto to laws and call the political parties to action if needed.
      The President also represents all Germans and is elected by a broad spectrum of political parties, representatives of culture, sport, Research, humanitarian organizations etc.
      It does not feel wrong if he or she actually does have an opinion on something and shares it. I feel this don’t complain and never explain thing is a bit outdated and sorry- a bit snobbish.
      It was okay as long as gossip wasn’t going that far and the classes were living very separated from each other. In this Media Days and with Royals who want to be close to people this is not suitable any longer.
      Princess Anne described this change in Royal work very well recently. She certainly understands the young generation and their desire to try new paths.

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    5. Anon06:27
      You do realize that Meghan lives about 9-10 years outside of the US about 7 years in Canada for her work in suits where she moved and when straight to UK so I do not see it as digs to anyone so it was really good to be home after just a long time. Also I am quite sure you would have heard her speak many times on tours or engagements so there was no the royal family muted her it’s just that she wasn’t able to speak on matters she’d preferred to speak on again no digs to anyone

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    6. @Kristina- she was very fine with giving up her voice to a marry in the first place. Honestly, she could have put her foot down and told Harry she wouldn’t marry him if that meant loosing her voice. He could have stopped being a working royal from the start. I am really confused what their actual problem really was right now. It changes with every interview. At the moment it seems that they felt they couldn’t reach their full potential as they had to always be behind the heirs to the throne. Shouldn’t have come as a surprise. This and the media scrutiny which sadly has only got worse by British as well as American papers. The German president is a good but at the same time a weak argument. Firstly- many people don’t feel represented and he is definitely not very visible in his own country. There are historic reasons why there is no direct vote for this position. (I would have argued we should be trusted by now, but the latest developments make me think it’s for the best at the moment). And the position will be newly appointed every couple of years. Whoever holds the position won’t see too many different governments and is certainly not a unifying figure for the nation while it develops. The time span is just too short. The UK is still not just one nation but connected kingdoms. That is why Scotland is able to openly discuss a real exist. That is just not possible with Germany.
      Monarchies are much more symbolic and to be maintained have to submit to certain rules. We will see changes in the next decades but I guess monarchies will always appeal more to traditional and conservative mindsets. We will also see a massive concentration on UK matters.
      The criticism that you mention is interesting as there are two big parties. Some are angry that Harry and Meghan feel hurt and some think they should be cut out of the money stream if they are not contributing. In the end, if the Firm wants to survive it must make sure not to loose acceptance at their base. Because they will never be the pet project of the more left wing minded.

      @Anonymous14:11: they said if AFTER the book excerpts didn’t go down well. When the book was advertised as being almost written by themselves they didn’t feel the need to disagree.
      The authors claimed they talked to them in the book. Scobie himself said so on Twitter. Maybe there wasn’t an interview for the book, but he clearly said they he wrote things they said to him while working together. So, what they said clearly found its way in the book even if that wasn’t the original intention. Also, if I may raise the question: where do all those very intimate details come from? Honestly, either it comes from them, all their confidants are snitches or the book is just a big fanfic. The whole book is pretty questionable anyway. Because I definitely didn’t need to know how exorbitant expensive their lifestyle really is (per brand name dropping and prices), when they spent the night together for the first time (spoiler: date 3) and more. Especially Harry is painted in a rather bad light if you think about it. So yeah, even if they didn’t participate doesn’t mean that the stuff didn’t come out of their mouth at one point.
      C.

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    7. There are times that I wondered if Meghan has some emphatic sensitivity to the bigger world. As international studies major and some of her travels to Commonwealth nations before her marriage into BRF, and her current role as VP of QCT, it gives the impression she can adapt to the international world. I am not sure of her outlook in depth, motivation and if she is genuine about it, or it just happened that one thing led to another, and it formed a good PR along the way.
      What she comments either about in “my own country” while appearing with a partner who just moved from his own country was one sign, this time why does she have to state the obvious?
      This especially with a comment “voting is not a privilege; it is a right”. “my husband can’t vote”. What they allow and accept commenting about each other in public, is their own business and tolerance level in their partnership. She should also be mindful of other world government systems “voting” is not necessarily a part of it, and yet may have reasonable judicial systems and rights. A voting system does not necessarily mean “the perfect” system all the time. In a democracy, voting is critically important. If other countries do not have a democracy and no chance for voting, does not necessarily mean their right is non-existent. There are also corrupted democracies where “voting” does not guarantee its purpose. Sometimes she comes through as the commercialized and hyped American exclusivity which mind set is the best is the American way, and the rest of the world is beneath it. The more she is gaining back her “interrupted voice the last two years”, and gaining back her “voice”, and most likely with an objective for a carrier in politics, the transition from what gave her a global stage to her own goals in America is getting blurry.

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  10. another nice interview by Emily Ramshaw hmm i actually think that the finding fredoom is a such a good book but there could be accurate they could make them look good but sometimes media was always the factor of them falling them hmm family always family no matter what maybe their a line between them but maybe the want outside of institution to help to reach as many lives as possible being the firm think makes them you have to care from the firm image rather you two itself they what think they have lesser think or to work

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  11. That was phenomenal and brillant job.
    She conducted herself with grace and she is so strong , intelligent and inspiring and she look sensational.
    She is definitely a force for change. God is great.
    Harry and Meghan are a power and charismatic couple.
    Thank you Charlotte and god bless you.

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  12. Meghan did a phenomenal job!
    She speaks from the heart. She is so eloquent & passionate in her speech. All the ladies were great !
    What a Wonderful even!!!

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  13. So nice to see and hear her again. She is home and looks very healthy and happy. I wish Meghan and Harry the best.

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  14. Thanks Charlotte, good read! I cannot get the visual of the Commonwealth ceremony out of my head. Optics matter, and they were definitely ignored by the senior royals. His brother and sister in law faces showed nothing but disdain for them. KP was working against them in addition with the other households. The Monarchy is an institution with people working there to defend it. But for family to sit in a church and show that pettiness was sad. The Queen and the POW need to restructure that institution and diversify it or their legacy will be forever tarnished. How can the Cambridge’s reign over a multi cultural Commonwealth and Great Britain when the couldn’t show common decency to their sister in law? Even if you don’t like her, disdain her, for diplomacy you are cordial. They behaved like children, even Sophie. Edward was the only one that even conversed with them. If that was the public face, privately it must have been hell. I had so much respect for William as a modern King to be. Now I see what Harry saw. The hit back at the book is because the world saw it too.

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    1. The BRF isn’t reigning anyone anymore. Even their seat at the Commonwealth is up for vote. Canada and Australia are very likely to remove the British monarch as already only symbolic Head of State. Others will follow fast. For many it’s a matter of not ruffling feathers as long as the Queen is still alive and they like the glitz that a monarchy brings.
      The only nation the BRF has to cater to is the UK. If they decide to remove them, they are done. No matter what other countries are official part of their domains. And I guess it would be more important to reach a diverse government- that’s were the course of the nation is determined.
      The whole drama surrounding the Sussexes is actually a very private drama inside a very dysfunctional family. As far as their “working” relationship goes it was always to be expected that Harry and Meghan would only play the fourth fiddle after the Queen, Charles and Wiliam and their spouses. That’s the job. Simple and easy. At least Harry can’t have been surprised. A reformed monarchy will probably be similar to the rest of European monarchies, where only the heir to throne and his family will represent the crown. Charlotte and Louis will certainly find themselves on the out at one point.
      Their “private” relationship is on a different page. Sadly, both layers are pretty intertwined which must take a toll on their relationships and hurt feelings all around. (Add, the complicated relationship Harry and Wiliam have or had with their father.)
      As an example- a photo shoot with heirs to the throne and showcasing them extensively shouldn’t bother Harry as “employee”, but it obviously did as a grandson. There are always different sides to such matters, especially as this is highly emotional. Who knows what went down behind the scenes. I guess there is no innocent party here. That would be the first time. But I was surprised that they showed this so publicly. Things must be extremely bad when they let you see their actual mood. We all should be very careful with judgment as we are not part of this family.
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    2. This issue with Harry is simple. You are always told you are the spare. you are always bashed as being dumber than the heir, irrelevant and you can't do this you can't do that even if they are proper things to do. Harry fought the grey coats and went directly to the Queen with the aid of Mechelle Obama, the US First Lady at that time, to setup the Invictus Games. Now he has LOVE in a woman that shares his same passions and the FREDDOM to pursue them with her love - can't beat that. That is why the press are pissed off because he has escape from their prison. For SIX WEEKS he was in his home and the press were creating lies about him in Tyler Perry's home. Harry HAS WON!

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    3. Excellent insights, Andrea. In the article 21:47 links to below the writer implies that Finding Freedom is full of slights which hardly merit mention never mind a strong response. She mentions a single incident of Kate not offering Meghan a ride when they were both going to the same place and passes off such actions as not particularly "cold" but simply "British."

      Well, yes and no. Microaggressions are very subtle things and a level of emotional abuse that is extremely difficult to address without appearing to be petty. But those of us who have experienced it recognize it immediately. A simple kindness--the offer of a ride--from someone who will be Queen consort one day to someone new to the family would not have been too much to wish for.

      The granite faces and cold shoulder during that final service sere astonishing. You'd think that they could at least fake it as well as they have done with despots and world leaders who have merited state banquets and tiara-level charm. Diplomacy, as you say. Basic civility. I often think of the episode in The Crown when Charles, visiting the Duke of Windsor, defends the actions of the family to the Duchess of Windsor stating that they only want what's best for him. She replies, "No they don't."








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    5. Wow Philly, you hit the nail on the head!

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    6. @C,
      Interesting points but "play the fourth fiddle... that's the job... simple and easy"? How quaintly medieval but we are living in a modern era so it is not a life sentence if one does not want it to be. As you have stated, Harry can't have been surprised. Obviously not! but in this day and age what modern young couple would want that? He was not comfortable with "simple and easy" he wanted a real purpose in life, did not want to be a leach living off taxpayers, ect so as we all know he presented a plan to the Queen and it was rejected - which is fine, surely he had a plan b - he saw the opportunity to opt out and out he went.

      It's a personal decision and so brave of him; family should have been supportive. That would've been the normal thing to do. Then again, as the whole world saw during the Commonwealth ceremony no family is perfect even with royal titles. It's about time we stop putting royal families on a pedestal and stop trying to live vicariously through them.

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    7. To clarify and add context: the only person without a grumpy face on the egress from the cathedral was Meghan, the resident actress, who put on a brave face. No one else was even attempting to look cheerful. It wasn't just a Cambridge -Sussex thing, although that is the tale being told now.

      The context, as far as was known at the time, is that the Sussex name had been left off the order of procession in the progeam. There is a reason for that. It was not known that the couple would actually attend until after the program has gone to the printers. Remember, the Sussexes were living in Canada at the time and being rather closed-mouth about their plans. It was anticipated by royal watchers that the couple would attend but not actually verified until fairly close to the event.
      Further aggravating the sour mood was that William was to take the role of a ranking royal and enter with the royal procession. With the Sussex appearance the plan was that the Sussexes were to already be seated before the entrance in order to preserve the order of progress as noted in the program . There was a last minute shuffle and William ended up yielding his place entering as a ranking royal. I believe both couples were seated before the official royal entrance, although they did make an entrance of sorts together.Those granite faces and lack of conviviality reflected the mood shortly after all this behind the scenes redo took place. Edward and Sophie were not immediately involved in these machinations and seemed to be trying to rescue the situation.
      The irony is that they all ended up leaving in the royal exit, in proper order of succession order.
      Most families that gather together regularly have customs. Who hangs the star in the tree. Who is Santa. It seems silly but hurt feelings do result when a person's traditional role is ignored or overlooked. This could have been seen as a family matter but was instead used and exploited as a sign of this or that weakness in the royal family.
      I think it was Philly (maybe not) who noted that they are indeed a family. This fact should be kept in mind when judging family dynamics from the outside. There will be slights and hurt feelings. Pouting and grumpiness. Except, with this family, it is magnified a hundred times in the glare of publicity. The fallout was also magnified and unfortunately was exploited by others for various purpose.
      Look it up. This was at least part of the context behind the Commonwealth Day photos. There has been a bit of rewriting of history since then but I believe accounts from reputable sources at the time will back this scenario up. And I believe this context needs to be provided in order to give perspective to reports and opinions concerning that episode.

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    8. Well , that's true .

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    9. @mtc except families with traditions around the Christmas star don’t play that out on tv in front of global audiences. A family such as this doesn’t have the luxury to immaturely air the their hurt feelings in front of cameras. The behavior at that ceremony was appalling. Also I don’t buy for a second this program mix up. Just because the press and royal watchers didn’t know the final attendance does not mean the family didn’t know.

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  15. On a happier note. Harry loves catching the tabloids of guard. I think he sometimes like to taunt them. He probably loved that no one knew about them moving into their new home. I need an agent to tell me about all the rooms and what they are for. Billiards vs game room, wet sauna vs dry, 2 kitchens, library vs office, children’s cottage vs adult cottage, tea house vs gazebo. What the heck. Variety said the paps can’t get to them and the can cut back on security. Gorgeous home and grounds. Now they can exhale because they are home.

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  16. British Journalist Tanya Gold has an opinion piece in the New York Times Titled:

    The British Monarchy Is a Game. Harry and Meghan Didn’t Want to Play.

    https://www.nytimes.com/2020/08/15/opinion/finding-freedom-harry-meghan.html

    As an American observer, I found these paragraphs ring true:

    "The royal family is a sacrifice at the center of Britain’s national life, fuel for the creation of a national soul because we can’t think of anything better. Sometimes it works. Often — and increasingly — it doesn’t. We dress them up in coronets. We play with them like toys. It has nothing to do with admiration or love. They submit to us, not we to them.

    "And if they are to survive this monstrous game? They do what is required. The women put weights on their hemlines, so that they do not swing in a breeze. The men are discreet and they are pliant. They allow the nation to project what it wants on them."

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    1. From Tanya Gold’s journalist viewpoint, the monarchy is her bread and butter. Her piece would have been more honest if she admits that truth about herself than trying to sit on the fence and have it both ways.

      Ms. Gold benefits from the royals, whatever her opinion may be of them. Her profession generated the tawdry, the dramatic , the clickbait tales about them and it’s the main reason why she got the op-ed space in the New York Times.

      Ms. Gold got gold on this one. She now has a NYT piece on her CV. Nothing she wrote about is news of course and much of it based on her speculations because she personally didn’t talk to these royals. Many commenters on this blog have already made similar observations about the royals without the paychecks.

      If anything Ms. Gold merely showed us how easily it is for her profession to pretend to be in someone’s head and report it as if it’s true and then get paid for it.

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    2. I think this is a good explanation even though it still only scratches the surface. The BRF is no charity (rather a charity case) and they need to hold a fine balance between pushing the nation (Charles and his green mindset for example) and also disappearing as individuals to be whatever the public wants them to be. They also have to read the nations mindset to interpret how they should come across. And at the moment I think the majority still wants the steely and rather traditional look. Especially so, in times when life is uncertain and hard on many. They try to mirror how Britain wants to think of itself and are very careful if they lecture the public about topics. Never patronising, mostly highlighting the positive things instead of condemning the bad.
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    3. Lol C. It’d be cheaper to fire the whole lot and build perfect Anglo-Saxon Stepford wives.

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  17. That ending piece by George Northwood is so moving... I just keep rereading it.

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  18. Weights in skirts? As far as I know, it is mainly the Queen who has those. If you want to see HM's thighs...
    .There is a purpose behind most of those pesky rules, based on many years of experience.
    The Queen is not admired? Not Anne? Not Sophie?
    Phillip submissive? Discreet? He, Charles, and William all have strong personalities and speak their minds on occasion.
    The author must have been confused with Game of Thrones, The Royals, The Crown...all of which are primarily fiction, based loosely with a great deal of poetic license on the actual British monarchy. I will admit- the tagline Is catchy. But Meghan has warned us about click bait. (So have I)
    I thought Harry and Meghan wanted to keep a hand in the RF for Archie's heritage. They had planned to make several appearances each year, mostly at the bigger (more photographed) occasions such as Trooping. That is what they said in January. It doesn't sound like an aversion to royal doings to me.

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    1. Well said MTC! Seems like quite a bit of creative license is being taken these days. Amazing how a little misinformation takes the form of 'truth' in print.

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    2. I took "weights in skirts" to be a metaphor, signifying that the women of the royal family must become what the people or even the media wants or thinks they should be. I do think that the RR treat the lives of the royals as a soap opera, and they have or make up certain narratives that they like to develop. It makes them seem like wannabe novel writers. They certainly don't seem to be journalists. At the most, they've become gossip writers.

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    3. Anonymous at 19:45, yes, it's a metaphor. I agree with your comment.

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    4. The thing is,19 :45, everyone has to live up to another's expectations in some way: Whether for spouse, boss, one's children--we must become in part what our chosen (or unchosen) roles dictate. Unchosen---The Queen was far down the totem pole when she was born the daughter of the Duke of York and certainly had no expectation of being a queen. She has made no secret of the fact that she is happiest when amongst her horses and dogs, preferably in the country. William cited fulfillment and meaning in his air rescue work. Catherine would likely be happy as a country squire's wife, keeping a hand in local charities. ( Do they even still have country squires?) The point is, each was either born into or married into a family with rules and traditions, not unlike growing up in Philadelphia or Boston or London society. There are expectations.
      I agree about today's royal journalists. The competition is fierce. One must do what one must do. Apparently. Each one seems to have lined up behind a favored royal or "House." Sometimes the favorites are chosen as a sort of reciprocal arrangement. Perhaps the writer identifies with a royal for some reason. In an effort to promote one's favorite and/or demote one's perceived rival, the result has become not only gossip, as you say, it is moving toward fantasy. On the other hand, when the truth is written it is denied until time reveals it as authentic.
      Their readers are not without some responsibility We choose to not only read their stories, we quote them and pass them on.
      Today many people live in an informational bubble. We watch and read only that which conforms to our own opinions and prejudices. If we do read other ideas it is to criticise and demean, not to gain understanding. We refuse to consider the other's viewpoint. As long as this mind-set persists there will be polarized governments. It has poisoned internet communication, which initially held such hope for bringing us together..Instead it divides us and fuels animosity.
      If we truly want more kindness and no bullying, we need to individually and as groups come out of our information bubbles. Maybe our favorite actually is capable of error. Maybe the other guy is right sometimes.

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    5. I don't know MTC, but your words are more like 'gold'! We should all pause and take note! Thank you.

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    6. MTC,
      I agree with all your observations but I beg to differ on "Whether for spouse, boss, one's children--we must become in part what our chosen (or unchosen) roles dictate". Yes, but only if one chooses to stick to whatever role that might be.

      As Anonymous@17:47 pointed out: It is not a life sentence if one does not want it to be. For better or for worse married couples could get a divorce, kings and queens can abdicate. The Queen could have abdicated like her uncle did and the crown could have passed on to another relative but she chose to honor the role and she has stayed with it. Even a relative that is born into the so-called "spare" or "playing second fiddle" could choose to opt out just like Harry. Note that also relatives of the Queen have chosen not to pass on royal titles to their children. Royal or not we all have personal choices to make.
      B&B.

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    7. Exactly !
      Why Sussex's choice it has become a drama ?
      Harry is not futur King .
      I don't understand.

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  19. What a great thread. I became a donated member to 19th News and am enjoying its coverage of current affairs. I checked with my local library system and it has 6 ebook copies of “Finding Freedom”. Yay! The bad part I’m #106 on the wait list. Oh well.

    Watching these women on 19th News makes me wonder could Meghan find a place as an interviewer, an anchor/facilitator/host on some network? She’s articulate, smart, thoughtful and quick on the uptake. What do you all think? It doesn’t have to be a full time gig even. I can even see her penning articles as a freelancer.

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    1. Meghan can do so .she is intelligent and eloquent.

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  20. Her over all defining interest seems to be social justice. Of course, there is the arts, fashion, and style. She is an engaging and charming conversationalist, a very good public speaker with an experience in published written pieces. Her defined role may be evolving, to what? Not known yet. Many people who are in philanthropy in USA already have a career, amassed wealth, and/or are members of an association or organization. Even if they start their own foundation, a defined role ( “ a day job”, a business venture, running for elected office, or be appointed, advanced education in political science or law) will empower her as well as give her a respectable stage. She just left one module of BRF kind philanthropy; that is a well-structured and secured formula). In USA, it will be different to do it individually or as a couple. It is good Harry is sticking to the Invictus foundation and continued with Travalyst in UK (whatever that may become, at least it shows his own project). Her strength is definitely in communication; looking forward in what ways she will utilize it beyond making speeches. Then again, making speeches also has some career linked to it. It will be interesting if she becomes a writer either for film scripts, or documentaries.

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  21. I think Meghan would have found a way to support her causes without making overt political
    statements. I believe she was fully prepared to work within the framework of the royal family. I think she lost her voice because she had to stand by silently while the BM destroyed her reputation with fabrications and racist attacks. They tried to diminish her in the most insidious and vicious ways imaginable. I can see why her comment "it's good to be home" might seem a dig at the royal family, but to arrive at a safer place should not be denied to any human being.

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    1. Becca H in Colorado17 August 2020 at 22:26

      You hit the nail on the head, Anon 2:33!!

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    2. Exactly. You are right.

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    3. Correct! Correct! Correct! An epic missed opportunity by the BRF. The BRF would have benefited by increase relevance in the lives of BRITs as well as global relevance in the Commonwealth and beyond.

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    4. I think there's a debate over the role that the RF should play. They may prefer people who are just great "figureheads," and I don't mean that in a negative way. If Meghan outshone other members, if she had ideas that went beyond the usual realm, it would have been a very good gesture to set H&M up in their new role rather than making them have to run to it. The Queen has done a lot but the inactions of others make it seem like H&M left in disgrace. This was another missed opportunity that could have been of benefit to all involved.

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  22. There is nothing wrong to say "it is good to be home" especially in the context of some of the battle she faced away from from home. It came her way from different directions. The tabloids are after the bottom line. In my opinion the worst is the one that came from her own family and they were played out by the media. Over all it is the world as it is - money is a factor. When it comes to how she over comes, bounces back, and keep up with life positively, she is amazing. Now that is either innate, life experience, wisdom, or all of these and more. That is another area she inspires me personally.

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  23. You are right !
    I agree your comment. Meghan inspiring me...Good luck Harry & Meghan.


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  24. This is everything. I love that she got her freedom back and is able to be outspoken in a truthful, genuine and pragmatic way about things she cares about like gender and racial equality. I'm sure it's good to be home for her after the hell she went through in the UK but it's also really really good for us to have her back home.

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