Saturday, 18 January 2020

Announcement on Harry & Meghan's Plans for the Future

After ten days of lengthy discussions, deliberations among the Royal family, advisers, courtiers and government representatives, we finally have news on plans agreed moving forward for Harry and Meghan. Before sharing the prominent points of the decision, a personal statement from Her Majesty the Queen.

'Following many months of conversations and more recent discussions, I am pleased that together we have found a constructive and supportive way forward for my grandson and his family.
 Harry, Meghan and Archie will always be much loved members of my family. I recognise the challenges they have experienced as a result of intense scrutiny over the last two years and support their wish for a more independent life.
I want to thank them for all their dedicated work across this country, the Commonwealth and beyond, and am particularly proud of how Meghan has so quickly become one of the family. 
It is my whole family’s hope that today’s agreement allows them to start building a happy and peaceful new life.'

The statement not only put forth Her Majesty's warm feelings toward her granddaughter-in-law but an acknowledgement of the "intense scrutiny" and the "challenges" they have faced over the past two years. The monarch closed with wishes for them to start building a "happy and peaceful new life".


 Harry and Meghan's statement:

'The Duke and Duchess of Sussex are grateful to Her Majesty and the Royal Family for their ongoing support as they embark on the next chapter of their lives. As agreed in this new arrangement, they understand that they are required to step back from Royal duties, including official military appointments. They will no longer receive public funds for Royal duties.  
With The Queen’s blessing, the Sussexes will continue to maintain their private patronages and associations. While they can no longer formally represent The Queen, the Sussexes have made clear that everything they do will continue to uphold the values of Her Majesty.
The Sussexes will not use their HRH titles as they are no longer working members of the Royal Family. The Duke and Duchess of Sussex have shared their wish to repay Sovereign Grant expenditure for the refurbishment of Frogmore Cottage, which will remain their UK family home.
Buckingham Palace does not comment on the details of security arrangements. There are well established independent processes to determine the need for publicly-funded security.
This new model will take effect in the Spring of 2020.'

The main points of the new agreement:

  • Although Harry and Meghan retain their HRH titles, they will no longer use them. They will now be known as Harry, Duke of Sussex and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex.
  • Harry and Meghan want to repay the £2.4 million used to refurbish and renovate Frogmore Cottage. They will pay rent on the property moving forward.
  • While they are no longer working royals in any capacity, they will retain their patronages and private associations. Harry will step down from military appointments and his role as Commonwealth Youth Ambassador, though he and Meghan will remain President and Vice-President of the Queen's Commonwealth Trust.
  • They made clear all their future work "will uphold the values of the Queen".
  • Prince Charles will continue to privately offer financial support for the time being, though possibly not Duchy money (other private funds).
  • It is thought Harry and Meghan will carry out some engagements in the UK in the coming weeks or months before this new plan takes effect. 
  • They will attend some events at the invitation of the Queen such as Trooping the Colour.
  • In the future they will spend the majority of their time in Canada and some parts of the year in the UK.
  • Harry and Meghan and the Royal family will review the situation in 2021.  
  • Details on their security and whether or not they will continue to call their foundation Sussex Royal will follow in due course.

This update was shared on Sussex Royal's website.


Since this news broke a week and a half ago, I think we've all experienced a range of emotions, predominately for me a great sense of sadness and disappointment it had come to this. I've written at length about the manner in which Meghan was treated by the press in Britain, the vile commentary, the undertones of racism and sexism. No human being should have to live their life that way. From the day she and Harry announced their engagement, she embraced her role with enthusiasm, passion and an impressive work ethic, winning the hearts of those she met and launching projects which supported the most vulnerable in society. They are both a tremendous loss to the monarchy, something which cannot be overstated. Divisions inside Palace walls and a breakdown in family relationships within the Royal family led the couple to reassess their futures, most likely sparked by the arrival of Archie. I'm only sorry the UK let Meghan down in such an appalling fashion. There were times when blogging about the Duchess, it felt like history in the making and history will remember how the first bi-racial member of the Royal family was treated. Harry is choosing his wife, son and the happiness of his family, a decision all of us can understand.


I wish Harry, Meghan and Archie happiness, fulfillment and peace in their future. This blog will continue to document their journey, foundation and philanthropic work as they build their new life. I have a feeling these two have some incredible plans in store.

226 comments:

  1. Shantel (@FashionandFaith)18 January 2020 at 20:10

    Beautifully stated, Charlotte. As I said earlier: here’s to Harry and Meghan continuing to walk in their purpose. Here’s to a life of making a difference in the world and thriving.
    Shantel
    Minnesota, USA

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  2. Why is he not addressed as Prince Harry, Duke of Sussex? Is he no longer a Prince now?

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    1. He is still HRH, Prince Harry, The Duke of Sussex, but he is chosing to just use Harry, The Duke of Sussex. It could be part of the deal made with the palace or it could be a decision he and Meghan made, so that their titles mirror each other. Going forward as Prince Harry and Meghan might not sit well with them.

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    2. He is still a prince but his official title changed when he married Meghan as gift from the Queen. Both Harry and Meghan were gifted the title HRH Duke and Duchess of Sussex. Now they will keep the title but lose the HRH. Many people casually call him Prince Harry but that is not his official title.

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    3. Being appointed (in this case, a Duke) always takes precedence. Similarly to Prince Edward always being called formally as Earl of Wessex, even though he's a Prince by birth.

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    4. Mary, not to put too technical spin on it, but they were not BOTH gifted the title of HRH Duke/Duchess of Sussex. The title was bestowed on Harry and as his wife Meghan’s title mirror his. Neither Meghan, not Catherine holds any titles in their own right. This is no reflection of the esteem in which the palace hold these women, but the way the peerage work. Only one person can hold a title (in this case W and H).

      Does it make a difference? Should Meghan/Catherine find themselves somewhere down the line married to someone else, they would no longer be Duchess of S or C. On the otherhand should Harry or William find themselves married to someone else, they would still be the Duke of S/C and their new wife will be the duchess.

      Like I say, very technical, but stil an important distinction.

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    5. At birth Harry was styled His Royal Highness Prince Henry of Wales.
      At Marriage his was given a dukedom and so was styled His Royal Highness The Duke of Sussex.
      From Spring 2020 onwards he will be styled The Duke of Sussex or alternatively Prince Henry, Duke of Sussex.

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    6. But Diana kept princess of Wales after her divorce and she was only given that title through her marriage...

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  3. I'm soooo heartbroken over thisπŸ’”

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    1. I hear you. I'm happy for them, I really am. But the process was grueling and leaves such a bad taste in my mouth. That they had to go through it all was excruciating.

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  4. Amen!

    Thank you for continuing the blog!

    Two thoughts though:

    1)It is truly telling that Andrew could keep his title, still supported by public money but H&M not.

    2) I wonder how some royals could look into the mirror now.

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    1. Andrew is losing his bodyguards as well.

      https://www.telegraph.co.uk/royal-family/2020/01/16/duke-york-set-lose-taxpayer-funded-bodyguards-wake-jeffrey-epstein/

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    2. @Anett
      I completely agree with both your thoughts.
      Injustice is very evident.

      Renee

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    3. I also have many thoughts, especially related to Andrew...ie, why does Harry-who has made a big part of his platform working with vets and the military -required to give up his ranking, whereas Andrew - sho has also stepped back from royal duties, keeping his?! I can only guess that some of those royal ranks technically represent the Queen and Harry can no longer do that?

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    4. This is an interesting sub-thread. I too think things are skewed. -op

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    5. Katie, I don’t think the palace has handled the Andrew situation well at all, but part of the reason why Andrew only stepped back and wasn’t forced to give up his patronages is because no matter public perception, he hasn’t actually been charged or found guilty of any crimes. Should he be charged the picture would change significantly.

      Also I think there is still a lot of work going on behind the scenes on Andrew’s situation. It kinda got lost with all the royal news but I saw some small reports that Andrew’s security is being reassed. He was also asked (told) not to take part in the Trooping of the Colour this year. And there might be more of these things that are being negotiated behind closed doors.

      As to why Harry has to give his military appointments, those honory appointments are very much representing the crown. But those positions also require their patron’s precense at specific events, which will be difficult if Harry is spending the majority of his time in Canada. I know there was already unhappiness from the Royal Marines because Harry missed an important event to attend the premiere of Lion King.

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    6. Judith of Michigan18 January 2020 at 23:17

      Charlotte, with your expertise, could you address the questions raised here regarding Andrew? I thought he gave up at least most of his military positions. Also since Andrew will no longer make official visits etc., is he really still receiving public money? I have NO support for Andrew but feel accurate information is important as it also relates to Harry and Meagan.

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    7. It may have to do with how H/M will earn money going forward. It probably would not go over well if they seem to come across as profiting off being royalty. Perhaps by not using their HRH titles, it frees them up to ways of earning $ that otherwise would not be an option.

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    8. No, the Palace has not handled the Andrew situation well at all. Unpopular opinion here-I think HM needs to consider stepping back. While her pledge at 21 was admirable and she has been outstanding and amazing, I think the world is changing and she might be out of step. While Andrew has not been charged, realistically, he never will be. Most wealthy men in position of privilege aren’t, especially without clear, unquestionable, and damning evidence, which is not available in his case.

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    9. Anett, On your first thought it was my understanding that one of H and M's desires was to be financially independent thus not accepting any public money. I don't think you can compare Andrew's situation to this one since you would be comparing apples to oranges IMHO.

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    10. Well said Anett and seeing today (of all days) that the Queen arrived at church with a grinning Andrew just tells us more about why H&M wanted out. So many people saying they are disappointed with Harry and Meghan, but I find myself disappointed in the Royal Family.

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    11. My husband is in the military, US though, I suppose because of that Harry giving up his military connection stands out more than anything. I really don’t know anything about that but from our military I would suppose that he has to give it up because he isn’t living there and so it would be inappropriate for him to be any sort of leader and theoretically if he is attached to the military he might know things that could make him a target. You wouldn’t share military secrets in another country. If that makes sense. I don’t think he should continue with his military status, but it makes me that his tie to that is cut.

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    12. Come on fictionmama! Where is your compassion? Poor elderly queen who was blindsided by her evil grandson must suffer another day with his beloved son. *only kidding*

      What is the problem? It is a normal average day for the Queen and her royal family. Totally out of touch move again.

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  5. Thank you, Charlotte,for all you have done, and thankfully for being willing to continue on their path. I feel certain the Sussexes were the proper ones to help move this change forward in the BRF. It was inevitable, anyway, that they would not be major players in the years to come, and this enables them to have more control and privacy in their lives now, as well as pointing the way for future "spares." The Queen's messages were not only moving, but they left no room for the tabloid press to misinterpret her feelings. I would assume their foundation might be renamed just The Sussex Foundation...no harm there. It will still doubtless fill the world with light, love and support for the unfortunate.

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  6. I agree that this is a huge loss for the royal family and the Commonwealth. I am surprised that they will not be doing any official royal work. I assume the fact that they would have to accept public funds to do work on behalf of HM was the reason for this decision. It really is such a shame as it seemed that Harry and Meghan were really determined to work hard and make a difference as members of the royal family, and I’m afraid the royal family let them down in a big way. And here’s the consequence.

    I do think things could change over time. Who knows how they might feel and what role they might play 20 years from now when we have a different monarch and Archie is grown.

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  7. Princess Eugenie & Beatrice get to keep HRH & work - why can’t Harry do likewise?

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    1. Beatrice and Eugenie are not working members of the royal family.

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    2. My guess, and it really is only a guess, is that if H&M were planning to go farming in the Australian Outback they would have kept the use of HRH. But because they are planning to work in a very similar field to the royals, but they don’t want to answer to the palace, it becomes important for the crown to separate from them. While the York princesses also does some work in the royal sphere while using their HRH style, everything they do is run past the palace first and that is exactly what H&M does not want to do.

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    3. Penny, neither is Harry now. I think they will not use HRH because it is not needed and they probably will get along better in Canada without using it.

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    4. Anglophile in Ohio19 January 2020 at 00:41

      They use Beatrice York and Eugenie York at their jobs

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  8. Charlotte's commentary could not better state the feelings of most of us. Her words are a true expression of faith in Harry and Meghan as well as an acknowledgement of not being supported by those who could have and should have known better. Unfortunately, for the RF another less learned to late in my opinion. I find myself thinking especially of Charles and what a loss this will be for him in a personal way. Little more is left to be said except to wish them the very best life has to offer as we all begin the next chapter of their lives.

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    1. I feel sorry for both Prince Charles and Prince William. I am sure they would like to have their son and brother to be part of the family business. However real life seldom works that way and as we grow up; we need to make decisions for our current families which is what Harry is doing I think.

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  9. Charlotte, you wrote "Harry and Meghan and the Royal family will review the situation in 2021".
    Where is this coming from? It is not in the official statement. Thanks.

    Lucy

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    1. Hello,

      Several of the royal reporters were told this by BP. I'm guessing it's just in relation to funding from Charles. They will be much more financially independent by then.

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  10. It seems reasonable to retain but not to use the HRH titles. Not sure why they would repay Sovereign Grant for the renovation of a house that does not belong to them, but okay. It will be interesting to see how things turn out for the Sussexes, my guess is that they will be very successful. It is a huge loss for the Royal Family as you say, though they do not seem to be very aware of it now, but I think they will be. PR-wise, it reminds me of the Diana debacle.

    Maggie - short for magpie

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    1. I also thought it was interesting that they are repaying the sovereign grant the cost of the renovations that were already scheduled. Granted, it was planned in relation to offices(I think) rather than a private home, but asbestos removal is asbestos removal, whether it’s in a meeting room or a bedroom.

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    2. I would guess that the payment would be made to smother the bitching from those quarters which would continue to rant about the expense to taxpayers. Now that the renovations, done to the specifications of Harry and Meghan's express wishes, will be paid for from their pockets even the most ardent critics can shut up. Whether they will or not is another matter.

      SMH

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    3. I think paying back the money is just smart thinking by all parties. As is often stated, H&M are independently wealthy so the money won’t matter that much, but it removes one stick that they keep getting hit with.

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    4. I think the repayment on Frogmore Cottage sounds like H&M took the negative press on that very personally. That's been on the table since news of this broke; I think this particular issue lead them to feel beholden to taxpayers, so they felt it was an important thing to do. But yeah, I don't understand the rent situation/BRF property use things at all.
      Thank you Charlotte, for this thoughtful post. I know we'll still see M&H (and I do hope you'll continue coverage!) but more on their terms. It does speak to a slimming down of monarchies all over Europe (as far a I've read) and an inevitable route for Harry. I think he's able to be more active this way in ways he'd have liked and has expressed wanting to do (cf. military service) that his role as "the spare" made it difficult for him to do. And Meghan already looks happier in photos of her in Canada. I believe the move will work out well for them, it's just difficult to understand as it's never really happened before. -op

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    5. Katie, I think the repayment clause is just PR. People are too stupid to realize that work had to be done, that it still belongs to the Queen, and so on and so on. All I see are headlines "The Queen is angry over the cost of Frogmore," so this repayment may be true but also satisfies people.

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    6. My guess is optics and to work on helping win over the public as they transition out of royal work

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    7. Jessica in Los Angeles19 January 2020 at 00:08

      As for repaying the funds used for the remodel, I think it’s simple PR. Polls showed that most of Britain supports them as long as they gave up their titles and didn’t live on taxpayer funds. There was anger that Frogmore was renovated “for them” just recently, and now they’re leaving. I honestly think Harry and Meghan heard these grumblings and just decided to pay the money so no one would complain. I think it shows just how badly they wanted out. If the price was paying $2 million, so be it.

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    8. Oh, for sure it’s a PR move. The rent makes sense as that is what some of the others(Eugenie, etc) do and as they are not working royals or really living there most of the year, they should pay rent. It just stinks that they have to pay for renovations that were already set to appease public opinion.

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  11. What welcome words from Her Majesty. I know the loss of the HRH may perhaps sting and require the couple and those who support them to be "philosophical" (to borrow Tom Bradby's word), but they have been an international couple from the start, with an international role to play, as set forth as early and officially as the engagement interview, and then solidified via their Queen's Commonwealth Trust roles, which they still retain. For their international audience and supporters, I'm not sure the HRH aspect is quite as significant. As an American, I was aware of the Royal family but did not encounter the term "HRH" until I started following Charlotte's Kate blog in 2011.

    Beyond that, the Sussexes have a natural warmth and charisma that transcends any title because it is not born of a way of address. It is this natural warmth and charisma that will keep them welcome and valued and innately valuable wherever they go in their international capacities.

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    1. An international couple - yes - but part of the BRF from the start. Isn't that part of why we are enamored? The loss of he HRH has to be reminiscent of the loss his mother suffered as well after her divorce. This is all quite sad. I wish them all the best. Where will they be in another two years after another round of change?

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    2. They didn't lose HRH, rather they are choosing (rightly) not to use it since they are not working members of the RF. I believe the Queen left the style HRH intact so that if they (or at least Harry) decide to come back to being working royals, the style is already in place.

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    3. I agree, all these titles are important mostly for British, foreigners don’t care about titles, they know about royal family. Meghan and Harry are still part of the royal family.

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  12. I wish them all the happiness in the world.
    They chose love.

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  13. The Queen's statement sounds incredibly sad. I feel sad for the entire family.

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    1. I agree with you Ivy. But I also think, of all people, the Queen understands the wish for normalcy. Her underscoring them as members of the family - and her praise for both H&M individually - was publically gracious and, as you noted, sounded sad. -op

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  14. Harry and Meghan and the Royal family will review the situation in 2021. - Where did youbread this Charlotte?

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  15. Such a lovely post, Charlotte. Thank you. I'm glad to hear the blog is continuing and I look forward to a brighter and better future for Meghan, Harry, and Archie.

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  16. I feel super conflicted. Of course, they deserve to live their life happily, but it’s rather odd that they don’t want to be officially royal but are using the website and “brand” Sussex ROYAL.
    only time will tell just HOW they use the brand and what type of work they do. I’m sorry Harry has to give up much of his military involvement, since it seemed to give him purpose.
    I wish them luck, but I’m sort of disenchanted and unimpressed. They’ve got lots of work ahead to repair and rebuild trust, I think.

    Annie
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    1. Sorry to be so blunt but whose trust do they have to rebuild? The only trust they need is what they have, each others. Who are we to be disenchanted? Walk a mile in my shoes so goes the saying.

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    2. I agree with you, Annie. And I’m sorry this has become a space where some would criticize you for respectfully expressing your opinion.

      — MSDC

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    3. I agree with you, USA Granny, and people can trust H&M now more than when they would have continued putting up a brave front while suffering. Those two are role models how to stand up for yourself (even when some details could have been managed more cleverly).

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    4. MSDC, thank you for articulating my gut reaction yesterday.

      And Annie, I agree. Disenchantment is a good word to use. While I watched Suits occasionally and knew who Megan was, my interest in her is related to her is related to the BRF. Otherwise, she’s another actress who is passionate about some social justice topics, not unlike Reese Witherspoon or Kristen Bell. I love both of them and follow on them Instagram, but that’s about the extent of my interest in them.

      I am sure I will get a lot of pushback, but I think long term, M/H, will not have as much influence as they currently have. They just became another rich couple who is trying to do something. The connection and representation of a 1000 year institution gave them a unique platform that isn’t going to translate the same way into the private sector. And maybe that is what they want.

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  17. Thank you Charlotte for your respectful coverage. I feel sad that it had to come to this but knowing what the media did to his mother, I am in full support of Harry protecting his wife and son physically and mentally from the abuse that was heaped upon them. I always thought they could make a rather impressive impact on the lives of those in need in a slightly different way from W and C, and I hope Harry and Meghan still will. It is heartening to know they will keep their patronages and equally heartwarming that Meghan has already begun to make connections here in Canada. I hope the UK media don’t come over here and set up shop. I think Harry, Meghan and Archie can find peace and happiness in their future endeavours in Canada.

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  18. I was reading for the last paragraph, in all honesty. :) I’m looking forward to following the endeavors of this fantastic family here! They have my admiration for weathering so much harmful negativity, racism, and criticism without losing sight of the bigger picture.

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  19. Thank you so much Charlotte for continuing this blog. I've followed you on both blogs from the every beginning. I really enjoy all the informative and balanced posts you have provided and I commend you for the professionalism you have shown. I'm so sorry for this development, and for the UK who are losing two of their brightest stars. I look forward to following their journey with you. Onwards and upwards for the Sussex family.

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  20. I have many, many thoughts about this so will probably comment in dribs and drabs. My first is that I wonder if Harry really knows what he is getting into. Meghan is going back to her old life albeit a richer and more glamorous one. Harry? What will his life be? I hope he can have a gratifying purpose that satisfies his soul. He is giving up so much. Will he drift around like Edward and Wallis swanning from one meaningless gala to another. I remember them well as they sailed from one country to another sponging off their affluent hosts. I sincerely wish HIM personal fulfillment.

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    1. I agree that harry is giving up quite a lot, it maybe he doesn’t feel that way.
      The queen has been very generous to let them keep their titles and I feel she is doing it as a safety net for him, especially.

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    2. Harry knows exactly what it’s like to drift and be doing something simply for the sake of it , that does not satisfy his soul. He has been open about that. He is trying to not let the 2nd half of his life be that way.

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    3. Totally my thoughts.......

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    4. Hopefully Harry’s life will be fulfilled by his loving wife and more time with his son.
      The comparisons with Edward and Wallis are ridiculous to me. Harry did not abdicate the throne and get virtually exiled. This was his choice and while there will be many changes to adjust to I’m sure he’s put some significant thought into it.

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    5. Annie, I agree with you; that's why I'm glad about the HRH safety net. It's going to be hard and new and different, but I feel the Queen wants to let Harry try. I feel he's been yearning for more normalcy for a very long time, definitely pre-Meghan.
      And Anon 21 J 19:40 - totally agree with you. They Wallis/Ed stuff is totally apples to oranges. -op

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    6. Theresa, I think Harry will be freer to pick causes that he can wholeheartedly get into, like those he has in Africa. He has said his ideal job would be as a guide in
      Africa. I think he will have the freedom to chose without having it fit into what Charles and William want.

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    7. Annie from NYC is disenchanted not Prince Harry. Let us not forget that!

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    8. Agreed. Hard to believe this is actually happening. Meghan gets to go back to her 'life'. Even though she committed to becoming part of the BRF. None of us know what the 'life' is actually like within the BRF - we see (or are aware) of the privileges. The challenges are less apparent.

      With this change, Meghan has her voice back. Whether or not she returns to acting, she can certainly hit the speaker circuit. What will Harry do? Continue to work and support the Invictus Games, manage the foundation, and what else? And while living so far from family and friends.

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    9. With the exception of his military appointments, it seems that Harry is keeping the things that were most important to him: Invictus, Sentabale, African Parks (?), Travalyst. It seems to me that he is gaining more than he is gving up - a beautiful family that loves him, ability to move as he likes, improved mental health vs a toxic relationship with the press and frankly with members of his family. I was particularly appalled at the attempted sabotage of the very innovative Travalyst project by the UK press. I'll bet he is a happy man right about now. Perhaps a bit wistful but also happy. It is really a shame that "The Firm" is not really a firm with the ability to undertake even a small amount of creativity. For people who are not subjects and who are able to take a slightly more operational view of the monarchy, this is a management failure. No reason that the Sussexes should suffer because of it. Best to them.

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    10. I had forgotten until this occurred that Harry had talked about wanting out of royal life lllllllooooonnnnnngggggggg before Meghan came into the picture. So I think he’s probably finally getting what he’s wanted all along now he has a family to justify it to others

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    11. While the media/UK press certainly has treated them badly, I also feel that this serves rather as an excuse to go forward with these changes which they were yearning for. In regards to Meghan I certainly feel that she didn't know what she was getting into when she joined the BRF. Her understanding of her role was not in line with the expectations of the crown, which she was supposed to represent.
      In their new lives they will be free to follow their passions while not having to tiptoe around others' expectations.

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    12. Harry and Meghan are work horses committed to making a difference. Edward and Wallace came from a different time when Royals lived a very different life. Duke and Duchess of Windsor were selfish ppl from all the books and bios I have read. I am so disappointed they have stepped down. Who among us could take daily criticism on a scale that Meghan has? Lie after lie after lie. Harry has not been happy in the RF for quite some time. Why everyone is blaming it all on Meghan is mind boggling.

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  21. Heartbroken. Yes.
    I wonder and hope they have some paying jobs lined up.
    This is a huge loss for the RF and for UK.
    Will piers Morgan and company be satisfied?
    I am heartbroken; the RF should have publicly, visibly supported H & M, especially after the Tom Bradbury interview.
    The Queen’s statement this time is MUCH better than the first statement. She admitted to the problems and thanked Meghan. Yes!

    Renee

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    1. Jessica in Los Angeles19 January 2020 at 00:11

      I agree. I wonder how differently this would have played out had the queen been so vocally supportive from the beginning.

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    2. I agree with you. But let's remove all the "royal" stuff and look at a married couple and their young child. People leave family/friends and move miles and miles away all the time. They quit their jobs and look for a new job in a new venue. That is what Harry and Meghan are doing. That said, there is obviously a vast difference because they are members of the British Royal Family - the most well known royal family in the world. Don't forget that these 2 people are not going to be ignored and most likely will have more opportunities in their new life. They aren't destitute and won't starve. The sad thing is the BRF apparently didn't learn from the Diana years. The "never explain, never complain" as got to stop. With their power the first thing that should have been said is that Meghan's race, former employment, and any other personal life is 'hands off'. I am appalled at the comments the average public put forth on the anonymous internet but more so from the likes of Piers Morgan, one of the most vial public figures in England. But mostly, I am saddened that Harry and Meghan didn't receive support from their own family. With all the 'leaks' from the palace, palace employees, friends, etc. I'm sure a few well placed 'leaks' letting the public know that H&M had the full support of their family or that some of the ridiculous stories were false would have helped enormously. I just hope Harry and Meghan have a better reception and public support in Canada. . . and that the British tabloids will stay on their side of the pond.

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    4. Renee Piers is on his soapbox today blaming Meghan for everything. Not only that, her father has given a 90 min interview bashing his daughter! The half sister has been at it every day since announcement. I am afraid these haters will never go away. KATHY from NJ

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    5. @ 3 anons, Helena, and Jessica: I agree with all of you. I don't think Meghan received enough support (maybe not any) from the RF. I seem to remember the press being called in and given a talking to when they went berserk over Diana. Piers Morgan, Sarah Vine, and her low rent family were/are vicious enemies. Actually, I don't think she stood a chance. Read the Buzzfeed article that chronicles 20 times Meghan was compared negatively to Catherine.

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  22. Like you, Charlotte, I feel disappointed and even disgusted by the treatment Meghan has received in the UK, it disgraces our country. I am very sad that it has come to this but feel unequivocally that it is the right thing for both of them. I am so glad you will be continuing this blog too, it will be great to be able to follow their new journey and I look forward to reading about all the things they will undoubtedly accomplish in the years ahead. Annie, UK

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  23. Susan in Florida18 January 2020 at 21:10

    He made the right decision for his family. Please continue this blog Charlotte, you are fair and honest and I would miss you and the community here.

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  24. Thank you Charlotte for how you've written about this situation and for how you've supported Harry and Meghan.
    While I am sad that everything had to come to this, I am grateful that Harry and Meghan are going to have a much more independent life, as is their desire. While I am not a royalist, I have always had respect for the majority of the royal family. But, I must say after all that has happened, much of that respect is now gone. While I do believe that the Queen, Prince Philip, Charles, and William love Harry very much, their lack of public support for Meghan (in the face of such abuse and racism by the British tabloid press) has truly put them in a very different light, for myself. I recognize that the family mantra has always been "never complain, never explain", but utilizing such a modus operandi in this situation was an epic failure on many levels. Not every situation can or should be handled with the same response or the same silence, and Meghan deserved better. While I can appreciate that the Queen is wanting to put forward a united front in her statement, it is quite obvious that relationships within the family have been anything but united these last several years. I do think the Queen offered a loving and warm statement this evening toward Harry and Meghan, and I hope, with time, effort, and honest dialogue, the deeply fractured relationship between Harry and William can begin to heal.
    In addition to the lack of needed familial support and the abuse/racism from the UK tabloids, I also think that an additional challenge has contributed to this situation as well. It was always going to be very difficult for an American to marry into the royal family. I know that it would be impossible for me to do it. Monarchies perpetuate the presence and idea of hereditary privilege and that this one family is somehow better than it's citizens. They are not egalitarian or democratic in and of themselves, even though the government of the country may be democratic. For someone who is the citizen of a government with an elected head of state and also is passionate about social justice issues and equality, coming into a monarchical institution would be incredibly challenging. It would be tough to maintain one's authenticity, voice, and advocacy in the royal fishbowl. I believe that Meghan was willing to do it because of her love for Harry, but I don't think she realized how much of herself she would have to sacrifice in the process.
    I hope this call for independence will give Harry, Meghan, and Archie the peace, stability, purpose, and fulfillment they need in the months and years ahead.

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    1. Well said, Sarah from NC.

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    2. I have complicated thoughts about this, but I believe that at the heart of this is a very complicated family issue. And here's the thing about family rifts: no one can force two people who don't get along to get along. If the tensions between William and Harry were as deep as has been reliably reported, the Queen HAS to choose William because he's the heir. Now whether that is right or not is another matter but again, the royal family doesn't deal necessarily with right or wrong, but hierarchy and procedures. The fact that the Queen called a family meeting and specifically requested the presence of William and Charles makes me think she has tried to mend the rift. It has not worked. Maybe distance and time will heal the rift.

      I also think that the family rift became such a huge issue that Meghan's struggles were maybe forgotten about. When you have one son (Andrew) who is causing daily embarrassment to the family, and two brothers (William and Harry) who apparently can no longer share the same spaces together, that swallows the oxygen in the room.

      I don't think any of these people (except for maybe Andrew) are bad people. I'm really sad about these developments and judging from the Queen's statement she's sad as well.

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    3. Sarah in NC, yes, yes, and yes! I was thinking about the being an American part. And being a very smart and driven person. To me, the very wedding was divided into two fractions -- those enjoying the fun of the day and those making fun of the day. The Meghan side smiled and laughed when they heard cheers outside, and the Harry side found it hard to contain their disdain for the sermon and choir. I think Charles liked it because he must get tired of the same thing, day in and day out, and I read that many of the participants were his suggestions. Regardless, I think Meghan came with her energy, her experience, her take-charge attitude, and her not-an-English-rose-ness, and some family members wanted no part of it. As an American, it's hard to recognize that difference, but I'm sure it was noticed! And not appreciated. I'm a middle-aged white person, but I cheered when Meghan said she was a woman of color in Africa. In addition to UK's loss, it is the RF's loss. Too bad they didn't shape up but hooray that Meghan acted quickly -- doing what the media and the vile sister call dropping people and what smart people call moving to a healthy environment.

      I am very sad that hurt occurred but very happy that a solution was found. I still like to think well of Charles. I think he likes Meghan and admires her and can be faulted for being too much of an absentee parent, which I suppose is because of his job.

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    4. Charlotte, brilliant. So glad you said this.

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    5. Well said Sarah! I agree completely!

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    6. Well said, Allison. I also noticed and was horrified by the reactions of certain members of the Royal Family on their wedding day. It said a lot about how they viewed Meghan and accepted her. Didn’t exactly bode well, did it?

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    7. If it isn't inappropriate, would you be more explicit about who these people are? I find this vagueness rather confusing; if someone was being mocking and casually racist, they should be called out, whoever they are and wherever they come from. Nothing will change if we keep covering that stuff up like we did with Andrew

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    8. Allison, as far as I know Charles has appreciated his very long Prince of Wales period because thus he could have much more impact on some issues close to his heart than while being king. So he probably understands the hopes and wishes of H&M to live a life of impact better than we might think and supports them.

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    9. Sarah from NC - I absolutely agree with everything you have written!

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  25. Becca in Colorado18 January 2020 at 21:14

    Man...I’m just gutted. In the span of 20 months, we went from an optimistic and bright couple brimming with opportunity to this. What I’m finding difficult to come to terms with is the feeling that it just shouldn’t even have had to come to this. Yes, the monarchy will be streamlined under Charles, etc, but the re-shaping of H&M’s roles could’ve happened slowly and organically. The situation in which we find ourselves now just seems wrong to me. I’m just disappointed and sad. At least H&M will be happier and healthier now. What they endured over the last 2 years was unacceptable.

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    1. I am also gutted Becca. It started so beautifully. I believe if they felt any support from RF, they would not be leaving, if not fleeing. I hope they find happiness, and I also hope they will have protection. I am skeptical that press intrusion will abate. KATHY from NJ.

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  26. Beautifully reported, Charlotte. I’m glad these plans will be revisited in 2021. Who knows, the Duke of Sussex may be ready to assume royal duties in support of Her Majesty. In the meantime, I hope the Duke and Duchess of Sussex find the peace and happiness they deserve.

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    1. I hope they won't. The press will taunt them more that the past two years if they resume royal roles.

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  27. Royal πŸ‘‘ Watcher18 January 2020 at 21:21

    Thank you Charlotte, I hope you will continue Mad About Meghan? I feel so sad I want to cry. Harry giving up military engagements is just too much to bear. I feel sad that Meghan was not made to feel welcome, she brought so much energy and passion to her role. Sigh πŸ˜”

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  28. ...and as you continue your work in reporting on the Duke and Duchess of Sussex, I will be happily following your blog and wishing Harry and Meghan well!

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  29. I worry that they will be hounded even more by the press now and not have the backing of the RF for help, who knows though. Time will tell. I also find it odd they are giving up being part of the 'royal' family, yet their brand is Sussex ROYAL. Seems weird.

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    1. They are still the Sussexes and are still Duke/Duchess, they will not use HRH but they have not given it up, and they are still as much a part of the RF as ANY other member.

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    2. Agree on the "Royal" absence and use. I wish M&H great success in their independence; however, it feels inappropriate to use the royal brand to make money. My understanding is other royal family members have trademarks and copyrights as a means to protect themselves, not make money. It is still a family after this all passes. B&E do not use any royal association with their independent work.

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    3. This is a sad day but it’s best for the Sussex family. What a loss, what might have been. A shame that Prince Harry, who served with honor and distinction, gives up his military patronages. They could have been such a boon to a modern monarchy.
      Some might recall that after Catherine decided her decorating choices were affected by pregnancy, the Cambridges paid to redecorate their Kensington Palace apartment. The deal to pay for Frogmore Cottage is only fair. Harry and Meghan must feel such relief that this is done.

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    4. All they gave up is being working royals, much like Prince Andrew’s daughters. They aren’t abandoning their family ties, Harry and Archie remain in the line of succession. Read the story.

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    5. They will always be part of the RF. They are not using their HRH titles although they are retaining them as HM has not taken them away. Harry was born a prince and will remain forever. It is just amazing that we have just received clear and very decisive information that is a summary of H&M status moving forward yet it is not enough. I guess it is human nature to want to pick every word apart and tag our own definition rather then accept the simply stated. All the conjecture brought us to today, lets give it a rest and share their happiness and much needed relief.

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    6. They didn't have the backing of the RF. As nice are the last two statement from the queen i feel sorry that her appreciation and support for Meghan is coming only after they call it quit. The main thing I like about the two messages from the queen is that it seems she had silenced those in the palace responsible for the poor pr and leaks. They just didn't dare to leak anything to the press as they used to.

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    7. There is an important - though, at this point officially unacknowledged - distinction between The Royal House and The Royal Family, with the former encompassing working members and the latter referring to family relations with no official or representative role. Harry and Meghan will no longer be part of The Royal House but they remain members of The Royal Family.

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  30. Diana actually lost the HRH when she divorced. I once read someplace that she would have had a better protection as HRH and that they would never have let her get into a car with a drunk driver.

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  31. Whether it is a sentiment shared throughout the RF or not, I think the statement is extremely warm, and I feel the Queen is being sincere. She had great joy when she approached Archie for the first time, so I believe she continues to love Harry as she always did and has respect and fondness for Meghan. They remain her family, which is very good. And they touched on the hotspots, like renovation of the house that still doesn't belong to H&M but it's used in the media to stir up negative sentiment. Meghan seems to be seeing a lot of her friends and I read that Harry was in a pub with friends, so that all sounds very good. I bet George, Charlotte, and Louis say thank you years from now.

    I understand that if a person has a royal role and perks, the public can expect certain things from them. But the idea that the public owns these people and that they cannot choose their life is awful!

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    1. Can we stop making assumptions about G, C and L? The S wanted to do what they think is best for them, time will tell is this was the best choice. But all the comments about how this decision will be good for the C children...they may all be happy with their positions and C and L may be thrilling to support their brother and to be 2nd and 3rd in the like. Stop assuming all non heirs want to be out.

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    2. Agree with Anon 9:13. In a world where almost every aspect of life constantly changes, any blueprint for 'spares' concocted now might lose validity years - but more likely decades - down the road.
      Moreover, the present arrangement is not in line with the 'part-time' role (subsequently referred to as a blueprint for future generations) Harry and Meghan outlined on their website.

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  32. Charlotte, I am mixed on a blog for individuals who are about to be independently financed (commercial business or donation/fee funded non profit). Your blogs do such a great job of highlighting the fashion and the philanthropic work of key royal women. Are you planning to start a blog about Sophie? She has always been a silent workhorse and soon to be a more prominent force. The working royals are now: Charles & Camilla, William & Kate, Edward and Sophie, Princess Anne.

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    1. I love Sophie, so I would definitely follow a blog on her but sadly, there isn’t quite the press coverage. The one blog I did follow on her ended up folding because of lack of coverage on her.

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    2. Anonymous 21:53 - Charlotte has already addressed the fact that she will continue this blog about Meghan. If you will look at the mast head it reads . . . "the life and style of the Duchess of Sussex". As the Queen has stated Meghan is still the Duchess of Sussex and Meghan still has a life and a style and is royal regardless of where in the world she is living. I applaud Charlotte for wanting to continue to keep interested people informed on what Meghan is doing.

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    3. Thid is a strange concept Anon 21:53. I don't think public funding was in any way the reason for having the blog. I think it was Meghan's personality and work. And that stays the same. She even actually stays a royal and a wife of the 7th in line for the throne. I don't really see the problem.

      Sophie indeed is a silent workhorse.
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    4. There is a blog about Sophie but I agree it would be great to have Charlotte’s coverage extend to Camilla, Anne and Sophie, but that might be too much for anyone person. ;)

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  33. I think it is a bit unfair to say that the UK let Meghan down. It was not the whole UK. Yes, tabloids were awful. Unfair and cruel. Not since the beginning and I will always wonder what caused the shift. Anyway, she was loved and praised by many organisations, people she met on various engagements, and apparently the Queen liked her so much, Charles as well, Camilla, too. She was publicly praised by Justin Welby, Elton John, Edward Enninful, to name just a few. It was not a whole country who let her down.

    Very frankly, I still feel enormously sorry it happened so quickly and in such way. They could do so much for the monarchy and I will be forever sorry that they have retreated as early as 2 years into it.

    I wish them all the happiness though. As the statement from HM said - they will hopefully have a peaceful new life.
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    2. Ella, unfortunately, I think the press had planned this all along. We know they tend to build people up to then knock them down. Let’s not forget the tabloid headlines when H&M were first dating which led to Harry releasing a statement to condemn the treatment of Meghan. They were also paying Markle family members to trash Meghan on an almost daily basis. In the end it was in the tabloids interest to get behind the engagement/wedding because of the money it would generate pre-and post ceremony - think of all the souvenir issues/pull outs and pamphlets. I really believe they stood no chance of a happy life as working members of the RF. I welcome the Queen’s statement, I really do, but just wish her support had come sooner. I hope H&M find the peace and happiness they so deserve and continue to be the shining light and force for good they truly are

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    3. I share your view, Ella. I assume this situation - like most - is more nuanced than the narrative of bigot Brits vs victim Meghan. Painting with a broad brush is not particularly beneficial as it leads people to think in a binary fashion, doing great disservice to both parties.

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  34. I am sorry that Meghan had to endure much pain and rejection because of racism and sexism by the British Press as you 'Charlotte' stated in your conversation. However, I did not see one time when the Royal family didn't welcome Meghan with open arms. I thought the Royal Wedding was beautiful. The Royal Family gave the world an EXAMPLE, of how to Love EQUALLY each and every person. Queen Elizabeth gifted them with a beautiful Mansion. Frogmore Cottage. The Royal Family did not hold anything back. They were treated as equals just like the rest of the family. Meghan and Prince Harry were treated Royally. I say Royally, meaning with upmost Class and as part of the family.. Saying your Royal, to me would make me very proud.
    With this being said, Again I am sorry Meghan had to go through this but I don't think a move across the pond, as they say in Britten, is going to change anything. The whole world has to do better when it comes to violence for any reason. I think the Royal Family should be put on a pedestal.
    Sincerely, Kathy Towers Colorado USA

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    1. Kathy, I think that Charles/Camilla, the Queen/PP were not the problem, except that there was never public support against the media. We had to guess at support, like when Meghan and Kate wore nearly the same outfit or Eugenie wore shoes that were the same as Meghan's engagement shoes. We saw all sorts of cousin get-togethers except with H&M. I assume/hoped that we just didn't see the behind-the-scene family stuff, but apparently there were problems. Meghan's baby shower did not involve any RF members. Beatrice had a flashy engagement party -- I think Meghan had a quiet spa day with her friends.

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    2. You’re correct. You did not see one time when the royal family did not welcome Meghan with open arms. Most of us didn’t because we aren’t exposed to what goes on behind closed doors. I think It’s not so much what was done, but what was not done.

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    3. Allison, I’m pretty baby showers are an American thing so I can understand why there was no RF.

      Also, my religion does not do baby showers - we don’t celebrate life until the baby is actually here. I wonder if a version of this prevails in European minds too?

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  35. Like you Charlotte and so many here, I'm incredibly sad that Harry and Meghan felt that this was the only way for them to achieve the peace and fulfillment they both desire and need. That being said I am very much inspired by their bravery, to commit themselves to doing what is best for their little family, to make a journey into the unknown, only being sure that it's the right thing for them and their son.

    The one bit that bothers me about the Queen's statement is the bit "challenges they have experienced as a result of intense scrutiny over the last two years". This completely denies the horrid racism, classism and misogynistic undertones that have been the main point of any reporting on Meghan since before she joined the RF. This complete denial will allow those types of reports continue to flourish and I believe are one of the ways that the BRF have completely let down Meghan,Harry and Archie. As you wrote Charlotte, "it felt like history in the making and history will remember how the first bi-racial member of the Royal family was treated." History will remember how the British tabloid press treated her and how the Royal Family sat silently by and did nothing.

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    1. Annette New Zealand .19 January 2020 at 03:35

      One of the Gloucester daughters married a Maori so Meghan was not the first bi racial members of the Royal family. The Commonwealth is overwhelmingly multi- racial and most Pakeha New Zealanders for example have Maori relations including mine. Meghan and Harry fitted in very well in my own country - everyone loved them just as they did William and Kate and the Queen. Sorry the Sussex duo felt they didn't fit into our royal family. Meghan was very popular here.

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    2. (Please note this is not at all accusatory and just curious!). Could you explain why you think it is denying the racist/ sexist nature of the coverage? I actually read it as an acknowledgment of it and show of support (which many day came too late). Is it because she didn’t use those words in the statement? Thank you,

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    3. Zora from Prague19 January 2020 at 10:55

      Lauri, I believe by "challenges they have experienced" and "the intense scrutiny" the Queen meant and acknowledged exactly that appalling behaviour by tabloid media. I think it is the opposite of "complete denial". I see it as British understatement, something typical for the country+its culture (at least in the older generations), a maximum that could have possibly been expected. In fact, I was surprised how supportive the statement sounded.

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    4. Hp and Zora, thanks for asking for clarification of my comments. Yes, I think that by failing to use the correct verbage and displaying British understatement, the Queen missed a golden opportunity to acknowledge what is fundamentally wrong with the British tabloid press.

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  36. As with most compromises I doubt that this is what either party really wanted, but it seems to be a workable solution, the only workable solution.
    I see a lot of people says H&M got what they wanted, but the way I read it, the reality ended up far removed from what they spelled out on their website. They did get the autonomy they wanted but they had to give up a lot more than they originally planned. And of those things I think HRH was the least painful. I think royal tours, Harry’s position as Youth Ambassador to the Commonwealth and most of all Harry’s millitary appointments was a lot harder to give up.

    The one thing that really stood out in the Queen’s statement is that nothing is irreversible. Should the situation change, maybe when Charles or William becomes king or should H&M find that their plan backfire, the door is open to return.

    Most of all I hope that this plays out the way they planned and that they find the peace and purpose they are looking for.

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    1. RachelZA, So agree with you! It can be a fluid situation. If the public/family pays for them, they can be working royals. If they are not working, they won't be paid. I think the things given up had to be because they would be part of being a working royal. It may very well suit everyone for things to change, maybe 5 years from now, maybe 20 years from now.

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    2. Where has The Queen stated/implied that 'nothing is irreversible'? The notion of a review next year was reported by the media, as far as I'm aware.
      Allison, The half-in-half-out situation is not feasible, otherwise it would have been granted for the Sussexes. After all, that was their preference, per their website. Personally, I don't see this position shift as it obfuscates the line between public and private roles of Royals.

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  37. I love that the Queen emphasizes that Meghan and Archie are (still) members of the family.

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  38. I haven’t posted in quite awhile but I do always come to the blogs to see what’s going on with William & Kate and Harry & Meghan. I was surprised by the announcement but not so much what it was but how it was shared. It seemed rather abrupt to me but that’s neither here nor there.

    I wasn’t surprised because I felt that when they named Archie with Mountbatten-Windsor as a surname, they would also be able to use it as he grew up, especially if they were to spend any length of time somewhere other than the UK and especially so if they stepped back from the monarchy. They would share a last name with their son because if I understand correctly, it would be the male-line descendants surname if they didn’t have another to use (Cambridge, Wales, etc).

    I hope this move brings them the happiness they deserve and Harry the peace he has sought for a number of years. I can’t imagine this was the easiest decision but if it’s the one they feel is the best for their family, I wish them whatever it is they are seeking to find.

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  39. Thank you Charlotte, for your beautiful reporting of this sad situation.
    The Queen’s statement today, was powerful. I felt her heart in each word. Essentially, the U.K. press has driven off Harry and Meghan. They should all hang their heads in shame, but that is only wishful thinking on my part.
    I hope and pray, that Prince Harry, and his family, find the peace and happiness that eluded them in England. ❤️

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  40. Thank you Charlotte - I respect your blog! I think Harry & Meghan will be fine but it won't be without adjustments - especially for Harry. None of us will ever know the details of what happened in the family but I don't believe the Royal Family giving them more public "support" would have changed the media accounts much. They seemed to have their minds made up about what they were going to write about Meghan, and unfortunately, I don't think the interest in Harry & Meghan will subside....or that the British press will change much toward Meghan. Trying to get the "scoop" on their new life will be the new frenzy. Here is Canada, there are many opinions about the cost of security and just how their new life will play out. My heart mostly goes out to the Queen and even the rest of the Royal Family - it's a huge loss and will change so much for all of them. Hopefully time can heal all wounds!

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  41. While I wish them all the best, I’m still feeling quite sad and disappointed in H and M. Especially with how they handled everything and the disrespect they showed to the Queen by making everything so public.

    Firstly, I guess the reports of them “leaving the royal family” were not so sensationalist. They’re not doing any more royal duties, but will be keeping the patronages they started working with already. And they’ll be building their life predominantly in Canada, occasionally coming back to the UK. So presumably Archie will be raised in Canada.

    Despite the negative press (which shouldn’t be underestimated), I think there’s much more to this situation than that. It’s clear Meghan wasn’t happy in the UK. They didn’t give it enough time to ensure she would enjoy royal life and like living there. It seems Meghan enjoyed the work but didn’t like the limitations on it (the Royal Rota), and perhaps even some of the ceremonial events (Harry would agree with her on this one). They obviously weren’t getting on with the rest of the family either, which didn’t help.

    Lots of celebrities and other royal family members have had to put up with negative coverage. Even racist coverage - what about the Obamas? Michelle had so much negative press at the beginning, for several years. Maybe I’m just being naive here...but why even read the papers???

    This change won’t keep the press at bay, not in the slightest. In fact, there’s even more interest and scrutiny on them now. Surely someone has told them that? It must be more than the media coverage...I can’t see much of that changing. What is changing is their living situation and the restrictions placed on them by royal life.

    Harry is the one giving up a lot to move to a country he’s never lived in, away from his family and friends. Meghan sacrificed a lot to move to the UK too...but now Harry is giving up his life to move to Canada...I just hope this ends well for them, I really do. Harry has a lot more to lose here, especially if they separate. Harry was obviously happy to do this for his family, and it’s wonderful they’ve prioritised their family’s wellbeing in this situation. Harry has also mentioned leaving royal life in the past so I think it’s something he’s always wanted.

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    1. Don't agree with you much, Vicki, but mention of the Obamas made me think that they obviously had security issues while in office and out of office. (Just think of H&M being out of office now.) I can't imagine that the Obamas would need less security than H&M, so I hope they have some tips. I think most of the "disrespect" is press generated and palace aide encouraged. The queen says this has been discussed for many months. Don't forget all the disrespect Meghan has already shown with her colored nail polish, necklines, stomach touching, lack of stockings, no hat --- all those things that also shocked and horrified the Queen. :)

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    3. Fiona in Australia19 January 2020 at 05:45

      I agree with you Vicki, and have just posted along similar lines that Harry has a lot to lose here. I'm not even sure that they envisage living in Canada in the long term. Possibly it seems more 'acceptable' given their bombshell announcement, being part of the Commonwealth? My own view is that Meghan would like to live in LA, near her mum, which is understandable. The question is, how will Harry adapt to this new life, that he knows little about? They are interesting times ahead, for sure...

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    4. I agree with you. I think it is unfortunate they felt like they had to make such a permanent decision, and not take a year off, say. I think they felt restricted by the role itself, probably particularly Meghan who was used to using and voicing her opinion, I also don’t understand how their hand was forced- who cares what the Sun printed? I would have felt so much better about this if the first comment had been a joint statement like the one released last night.

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    5. Vicki, I believe it was the press - as we’ll as those who were leaking information to the tabloids, who made everything so public.
      Meghan has had to endure the most ferocious criticism, smearing and bullying from the beginning and throughout her pregnancy. I don’t believe in the ‘you should take it because others have’ way of thinking - and I also don’t believe you need to read the papers to know what is being said. They are public figures, so the very negative press could impact, not only on their safety and their interactions with the public, but also on the patronage’s and charities they support. Yes, Harry is giving up a lot, but he has found love and is now looking for the peace and normality he has always craved. Good luck to them both - I wish them all the happiness in the world

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    6. Nicole from france19 January 2020 at 17:01

      Allison in US , with due respect , is really a colored nail polish or a lack of stocking a lack of respect , in 2020 ?even to the Queen ? While, in the same time, a person from the BRF allowed herself to attend a private family meeting where Meghan was wearing a brooch which could be seen as an insult to Meghan bi-racial origins .....while some senior royals allowed themselves to giggle at the sermon during M and H’s wedding .... if that is not disrespect ... we all know that respect comes from the heart and mind , and while I reckon things like wearing trousers at a ceremony in presence of the Queen could be seen as a lack of respect by many people, blaming Meghan for such small incidents might show why the medias were so successful in bashing her ....

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  42. I am glad you will continue the blog.I have enjoyed following all the good works that they shine light on. I am feeling sad they were not treated well. Why do we punish those that are trying to make the world a better place? Regards from Boston.

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  43. The vague "Spring 2020" deadline? I'd guess that's probably Beatrice's wedding.
    I look forward to whatever they have planned. I hope they find some peace now.

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  44. I am so very happy for them and think this is the best outcome. As an US Citizen, I can tell you that many people in North America love and support the Sussexes and will welcome them to North America with respect, dignity, and open arms. I think, and hope, that we will begin to see them in ways we were never privy to because of the limitations of being working royals. I'm so excited for their future as they embark on this most thrilling new chapter!

    I'm so glad that you will continue this blog. There's been such a shift in recent years with the BRF and a lot of that is evident in the bloggers that write about them. I've actually moved away from reading some other blogs because they too became rather insidious with their reporting on Meghan. You, Charlotte, have always maintained a lovely respect for many of the BRF including Meghan, and I will always admire and respect that.

    I appreciate this little corner of the world and will continue to read your work.

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  45. Charlotte, there are still so many things I don't understand. Yearly events where we expect to see them - Trooping the Color, Remembrance Sunday and events, Christmas Day, etc. - they will no longer participate?

    Will Harry no longer where a uniform? I assume no Royal Tours - if he no longer is representing the HM.

    What exactly will they be doing with their roles within the Queen's Commonwealth Trust?

    I'm still in shock - and saddened, especially for Harry - that it's all come down to this. They still have a long road in front of them.

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      He could wear his Blues & Royals uniform should the Army permit him to do so ( as far as I'm aware there are no clear guidelines with regards to this issue).
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  46. i hope the duke and duchess of sussex are finally they have a settle down im not surpise by the announcement of the queen these day i have a feeling they come out like these

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  47. Sandra from Canada...they are and always will be a part of the Royal family. They are just stepping down from being part of the firm and working Royals. Princess Ann's children enjoy a private life away from the media and are often seen during Xmas, on the balcony and at other events. We will see Meghan and Harry as well. They are more like Sarah and Mike, Peter and Amber and Beatrice and Eugenie now.

    Harry and Meghan have a small child at the moment and perhaps soon another one on the way.
    There is nothing stopping them down the road, when the children are older from stepping back into Royal duties...nothing is written in stone. This is the best decision for them at the moment.
    They will enjoy fulfilling work of their own making and are very wealthy in their own right.
    They no longer have to answer to the British media and the presumed rights of the TAXPAYERS over them. Good luck to them and welcome to Canada.

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  48. Charlotte, what does this mean for Meghan and ACU and National Theatre? Will she just be a patron and not royal patron or have to give those up? I know Harry keeps Invictus, Sentebale, Well Child (?) and others.. will Harry have to give up Endeavour Fund? Basically what is a private charity/patronage?

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  49. I am sad for Harry. I hope he knows what he is doing and what this is costing him in the long run. I find it interesting that this situation will be revisited in 2021...

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  50. I have no sadness for Harry at this very moment -- I think he is greatly relieved and will do things he only wished he could do earlier. Reports are that he had a happy and relaxed "guys' evening" at a pub. I am sorry that he has had to worry about Meghan's treatment for all these years and that she was happy and safe only with her friends, but there should be NO family loss based on this move. He is like his cousins now. The only loss has come from Meghan's treatment.

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  51. I’m so sad it has come to this. I wish Harry, Meghan and Archie all happiness they so rightly deserve.
    Thank you Charlotte for continuing to blog! A bright spot on gloomy day. 😊

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  52. Kate, Texas, USA19 January 2020 at 02:10

    I am incredibly saddened first, for Her Majesty and then for the family. I know there are many of us that have watched Harry grow up before our eyes. While I wish him all the happiness, it’s incredibly sad it has come to this. It’s sad that they feel the only solution is to jump ship and leave the country. I am sad for William and Catherine. Everything is so shocking. I am so, so sorry for the Queen that they would decide to do this at her and Prince Phillip’s age. While I definitely don’t understand and do feel they are making a poor decision, I wish them well. I will be looking forward to seeing the Queen happy again this summer at Trooping the Colour.

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  53. I just wanted to thank you for summarizing the situation and statements so well. It is truly appreciated (as a long time reader, first time commentor)

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  54. Some of my thoughts. I think that this is a great loss for the UK and the Commonwealth. What I noticed when Meghan and Harry were greeting people was that the people of color loved Meghan. Now the Royal family has lost that representation.

    Also, the Queen acknowledged in her statement that discussions had been on-going for months. I think that Meghan and Harry’s minds were made up during her pregnancy. The negative stories in the tabloids were really bad then. Meghan alluded to it when she spoke to Tom Bradby at the end of the Africa tour. I think that is what caused their decision to have the private birth and not to have the hospital steps showing of the baby. I think it was Harry’s way of trying to exert some control over the press. Unfortunately, that backfired and just became another criticism of them.

    I am so sad about this. I’ve admired them from the beginning. I’ve sent cards to them and received cards back from Kensington Palace. It was such a thrill to receive the first one and to see the crown on it with “Kensington Palace”. The last cards that I sent were at Thanksgiving and Christmas. I don’t expect to get a card back. When Meghan was in Ireland, she wore a pair of citrine and diamond earrings from Birks in Canada. I bought the matching ring. It is beautiful and sparkles like crazy. Every time I wore it, I would think of her. When people commented on it, I would tell them that Meghan has the matching earrings and I would show them one of the cards that I received.

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  55. Happy for them. I'm sure its going to be a big change for Harry but I think he'll manage the adjustment. I also can't imagine the the human toll of going through a few more years of hate and scrutiny in the age of social media. Also, sorry to the UK tabloids, but when you drive people away while making money off clicks precisely doing just that, don't be surprised about the results.

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  56. Charlotte, than you for deciding to continue with the blog. It’s so incredibly sad that Britain could not help Harry and Meghan fulfill a promise of more enlightened race relations.

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  57. Fiona in Australia19 January 2020 at 05:41

    I’ve followed the blog since its inception, but rarely comment. At the time Harry and Meghan became engaged, I remember wondering how this would pan out. Meghan is a woman used to having a voice, effectively using it since a young girl relating to her sense of global responsibility and philanthropic concerns. How would this translate in her new role in the British Royal Family where she may not have/ be allowed this voice?

    Things have moved on quite swiftly since their wedding in May 2018. It now seems that most of the larger issues involved in their stepping away from their roles in the BRF are now sorted out, although of course we’re not privy to the finer details. I do feel that the Queen was caught between a rock and a hard place with H&M’s recent announcement. She has managed the situation with grace and sensitivity in what’s a potentially damaging state of affairs – to the monarchy.

    While no doubt for all parties involved, there’ll be a sense that they can move on, I can’t help feeling for Harry. He is distancing himself from his family, his country and all the things he’s known in his life. I don’t think Meghan is giving up nearly as much as he is.

    The BRF, and the Queen in particular, have weathered many turbulent storms in the past. Charles and Diana’s marriage was a huge one. While Diana spoke through Andrew Moreton’s book and gave a few interviews I think that, while she was critical of the monarchy and its "grey men" - and certainly did so much to modernise it and make it more relatable to the public - in essence Diana always respected the existence of the institution and didn’t want to cause irreparable harm to it. After all, her son was destined to become king one day.

    With Meghan, I don’t get the same sense in relation to how she sees the BRF. She has little knowledge or appreciation for the monarchy and its history, which makes me wary of what she might do or say in the future. Sure, she loves Harry and they have a son together, but I’m not sure that is enough as she strikes me as very hard-working and driven in her own right. I honestly fear that, depending on what her career goals are and how she thinks, she has the potential to do the monarchy a huge amount of harm as she’s not vested in it continuing. She may be the wild card they never saw coming, and I do hope I’m wrong.

    I see Meghan as highly intelligent and articulate, but I think the crux of it comes down to the fact that (and I know I’m generalising here) Americans are inherently communicative, open to sharing, with no holds barred. This would be Meghan’s authenticity that’s been spoken about and why she might find living in the confines of the BRF toxic.

    Harry on the other hand is quintessentially British born and educated, with a history of serving in the British military. It’s basically all he knows. I’m sure he would have a huge sense of accountability to his own (BRF) family with how things happen going forward. I know he's often spoken of the difficulty of his role and wanting out of the BRF in the past. I’m just not sure whether he’s really in control any more. I hope, for his sake, he can adjust to a life in North America. This is Meghan’s comfort zone, so again, he’s giving up a lot of his history to make this marriage and a new way forward work. It's clear from the Queen's message that the BRF regard him, Meghan and Archie as always being part of the family.

    I don’t know how that translates into the future, with Harry being Charles’s son (no matter what Harry’s official status is) and what the impact of Harry and Meghan’s actions/words in future might be. No doubt the senior members of the BRF have mulled all this over and suffered a large amount of angst in the process of these deliberations.

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    1. Zora from Prague19 January 2020 at 14:03

      Thank you Fiona for putting into words what I've been thinking (and struggling) about these past 10 days. I especially agree with what you say about Harry and what he gives up. I think I'll have to take a break from following H+M so closely; it's become too upsetting for me. I wish them well and, like with many other things and situations, I'm sure time will tell. A tree is known by its fruit and I hope H+M's fruit will be good and ripe.

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    2. I completely agree with you, Fiona.

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  58. Having visited Victoria & Vancouver myself, let me say that the Duke and Duchess of Sussex will be living in a beautiful geographic area that will hopefully aid in healing their wounds. I look forward to seeing their future endeavors in the charitable arena. Remember "happy wife, happy life." I applaud them for taking the actions necessary to ensure the entire family's future happiness.

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  59. Nicole from france19 January 2020 at 07:41

    Not enough time to read all the very interesting comments just right now , I feel very sad but relieved for H and M that they apparently got what they badly wanted . Though, the breaking of trust between the members of the BRF is really bad, and I can’t help thinking that the Queen let the situation get worse during those 20 months without intervening (at least publicly , as of course I know nothing of private conversations and actions)even in a slight way as she did for example for the Middleton’s . She now acknowledges the value and work enthousiasme of Meghan , isn’t it a bit too late ? OR ... could it be she was not aware of the situation within her family ?
    Charlotte , your work is invaluable by its accurate and sensible comments , I am glad to be able to read your blog !

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  60. That's such a beautiful picture from their wedding. The way they are looking at each other...

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    1. I agree, I'm so happy you brought this picture, Charlotte. There I can see the very foundation of their deep relationship. I wish that they can maintain and even deepen this relationship some more and that they are utter support, love and friendship for each other.

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      RM in PA yes , this picture is splendid l and the body language says a lot : they are not just side by side, they are facing each other .... he uses his two hands , and she grabs him ....

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  61. I really hope that this change and move works out for them the way they hope, mainly that the toxic press coverage stops. But I'm not sure it will. When Diana divorced she lost her title but it didn't stop the press from hounding her. I really hope for both their sales, but especially Harry, that it doesn't continue for them. Good luck to them in their new life.

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  62. First, I do wish them the best, I don’t want anyone suffering and Harry clearly was.
    Second, Meghan got sexist/racist coverage. While I don’t think it was ever debatable, There has been some analysis by the Guardian that shows this (and seems to have a valid methodology). But while she got it the worst in that sense, the coverage of women who marry into the royal family has LONG been horrible. The bar needs to be set higher, period. 3). It’s been crazy how differently ppl have reacted to this- some are accusing the RF of being racist and evil, others Harry and Meghan of being spoiled. It’s clear in hindsight more should have been done to protect Meghan and earlier steps to heal the rift between brothers. But I wish ppl would remember we have no idea what actually happened behind the scenes. I wish I saw meaningful conversations about issues of institutional racism and sexism, unconscious bias, etc. I don’t see anyone trying to educate themselves, and that is tragic to me. I do feel like the coverage of this that has gone viral is really disturbing and disappointing that the media hasn’t covered it better. 4). I do have a lot of sympathy for Harry, but I also feel horrible for is William. Diana was his mother too, his wife has been dragged through the coals too (I think you can argue KAte being chased by paps when they were dating, topless photos etc. is closer to what happened to Diana) but he can never leave. He must feel a lot of weight on his shoulders now. I just wish this didn’t feel so permanent. 5). I can’t help but wonder how isolated Harry will be. I am in London for a year and my friends/ family home in San Francisco. The time change is hard and we are not estranged. 6) I really hope we see happy pictures of KAte and Harry again one day. I miss those. I hope a year from now Harry and Meghan are happy and thriving, and that the rest of the BRF (with the exception of Andrew, who should be stripped of
    HRh all public funding (based on what he exhibited in that interview)and giving testimony and/ or investigated) is too. I hope I am wrong about the distance and things heal.

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    1. Yours is the first comment I can relate to. We have no idea what was going on in terms of the family relations. I am upset that people keep blaming the family. And thank you for pointing out that you feel bad for William. I feel so bad for him and Catherine. They are in this situation alone. I’m sure wills foresaw the future with him and Harry carrying the burden, now it’s gis burden and there is no one to share it with until his children grow up. I am sure this must be a very difficult time for them. And I also miss the Harry and Kate relationship:(!

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  63. There are a lot of comments here saying that this will not change the attitude of the British press, that is correct of course, but then the Sussexes no longer have to care about the British press. They will have a new life in North America; they need to be well regarded enough to get jobs there, but it will not matter to them if they have critics as well. It is only the working Royal Family that needs to try and be universally popular in the UK and the Commonwealth, and losing the Sussexes and publicising family problems in the process will not help with that. It was important for the Sussexes to offer to continue royal work part-time so that they could not be blamed for the drop in the overall number of royal engagements that will come with the streamlining, but it is probably to their financial advantage that they were not taken up on it. It would be more difficult to charge for delivering speeches, etc. if that is also part of your work as a royal.

    Maggie – short for magpie

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    1. I seriously doubt that they would have been sidelined during the next reign. The reduction in 'manpower' and consequently, number of engagements will likely be due to the retirement of The Princess Royal, The Duke and Duchess of Gloucester, The Duke of Kent and eventually, The Earl and Countess of Wessex further down the line. If indeed, Harry and Meghan would have been redundant at some point in the future, it would have occurred about two decades from now.

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    2. Obviously, they would have been sidelined by a future King William, not Charles. But then they would have been in their 50s, that is a little late to start a new life. Much better to do it now. As you say, Anonymous, it is not impossible that that they would not have been sidelined, and have their funds cut, at all. Even as it is, the Duke of Cambridge may rediscover his brotherly affection when he sees how much work there is to do all by himself. But the Sussexes would have had that spectre looming for decades, why would they accept that when they have other options.

      Maggie - short for magpie

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    3. I don't think the NUMBER of engagements would lower,but the QUALITY (at least in H&M's minds)would. They'd be more ceremonial, unveil the plaque kind of things. The Sussexes are looking to do more good than that.

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  64. There probably isn't a better arrangement that could come out of Meghan and Harry's expressed desires but I don't feel either joy or relief - just profound sadness over this outcome.

    I'm sorry that Meghan and Harry felt unsupported by the family but as this has unfolded, it seems clear that they have been working toward these changes for many months. Even as I understand their desire for more autonomy, I can hardly imagine a way whereby other members of the Royal Family could have responded with enthusiasm or encouragement over the idea of them breaking away. So Harry and Meghan felt unsupported - and other family members likely felt a sense of betrayal... It's not hard to see how the result was so much emotional pain for everyone.

    One can only wish them well... they are young people with a vision, forging a new path. They have much to offer but they may have idealized the alternative life they desire. Meghan found that she had, perhaps, given up too many of her hopes and dreams to marry her prince. I hope that doesn't now prove to be the case for Harry - the enormity of his losses will take time to sink in.

    They are so very fortunate that the Queen has graciously found a way to express her love and understanding, to let them have their wings, though she'd prefer they stayed, but also to have left the door open for an increased role should they wish it in time.

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    1. I wish the queen had, in whichever way shape or form expressed her support love and understanding over the past 2 years. There just might have been a different outcome.
      She is attending church today with Andrew in tow. He of the paedophile friend brigade who benefitted commercially from many a deal (prick@palace), while still retaining his hrh status.

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    2. Well said, Judy.

      — MSDC

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    3. Judy so well said and my sentiments exactly.

      I went on record saying I didn’t believe they would leave. Clearly I underestimated their pain.

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    4. I share your sentiments Judy. There is no real winner here, only hope that the path they are embraking on brings them the peace they desire. I I hope their eyes are wide open.

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  65. It's crazy to me to think about the fact that it hasn't even been 4 years since they first met, and that when it will have been 4 years, they will have already done all of the following: meet, date, get engaged, get married, have a child, have at least half of the couple move to a different continent two separate times, and have half of the couple also change careers 2 distinct times-all in 4 years. That's crazy.
    To be honest, it seemed like a risk to get engaged within days or weeks of Meghan moving to the UK, rather than giving her some time to adjust and also learn what she was committing to first. And now, giving up on it so quickly is interesting, though of course only they know what is best for them. I hope this time that all the change will go better.

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  66. Charlotte: As a Canadian reader, I would love to see a blog post analyzing the security aspect of this. It is clear from Harry & Meghan's statement that they do not wish to discuss it, but I actually think it's the issue most important to Canadians right now. Though Canada is happy to welcome them, our news agencies are reporting the following: During Harry & Meghan's vacation here, the Canadian Gov't paid about $100,000 per day for their security. Doing the math, that's about 4.2 million dollars of our tax payer money that went towards their security during those 6 weeks. Our country is currently drowning in debt and these security costs are actually a big issue for us. It has been expected in the past that as the "host" country, Canada bears the brunt of security cost for royals while they are here. This cannot continue if H & M are here full time, right? The idea of financial independence sounds nice, but it's not truly financial independence if Canadian taxpayers are funding their security. It would likely help us to be more welcoming and have a better attitude about the arrangement if we knew that H & M would be covering the security costs themselves.

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  67. For Her Majesty to say “I recognise the challenges they have experienced as a result of intense scrutiny over the last two years and …” is IMO too little too late. They all could’ve said something when all these were happening.
    Secondly, for HM to say “Following many months of conversations and more recent discussions …” contradicts the narrative that was being reported that the Sussexes blindsided the Buckingham Palace, CH, KP.

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    1. The claim and inference (from BP's first statement) that the family was blindsided was in connection to the statement released not about their plan. It seems informal discussions have been taking place for 'many months' with no concretisation and finalisation of their plans. This process was exacerbated by the release of the statement, bringing us to this swiftly worked out agreement. No need to perpetuate that the palace lied and knew all along, as they indeed did. They were however, blindsided by the the timing of the release of the statement and website.

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    2. In my opinion, historically the palace is now and has always been "a little to late". I often blamed it on old fashion PR but no longer. I believe this comes straight from the top, HM. I have great admiration for her. Unfortunately, her ideal tradition in dealing with the public no longer is realistic. So much could have been avoided.

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    3. I don't doubt that the future of H&M has been discussed for man months, but it's not the idea that blindsided BP, it was the way it was announced prior to details being worked out. I also don't doubt that they had support from within its just it wasn't moving fast enough for H&M. Once announced, the Queen dealt with it as she was forced to do and in a manner keeping with the love of her family as well as her duty.

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  68. "This blog will continue" - thank you deeply, Charlotte, for the affirmation you have shown towards Meghan throughout and for your continued faith in her, in them and in their shared mission. Your blog is one of the bright spots in my day, in this midst of these highly difficult times here in the U.S. and in the world. The message that Meghan brings, and that you share, is truly inspirational. I'm grateful to know that this will continue.

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  69. This news is bittersweet. I'm happy for Harry & Meghan because they are apparently achieving the goals they set about for themselves while courting & after marrying. Harry has always been rather independent of the BRF so it's understandable that he hasn't an issue with leaving it for love. Meghan it seems isn't a good fit for a structured, monitored BRF life, so it makes sense that she would wish to leave it behind & I'm happy that Harry is willing to do so with her. They are blessed in that they are able to come to a meeting of the minds over their desired lifestyle.
    I've always loved them as a couple, and will continue to follow their good works. They are a force to be reckoned with, that is for sure. I wish all good things for them, as they are a pleasure to watch for doing good works in the world.
    My only regret is that Meghan didn't know what she was getting into before the marriage, and what a thick skin would be required in being a member of The Firm. She gave it a try though, and that's to her credit. I do hope Harry knows what he's getting into here, and what it will mean going forward. May the press leave them alone to live their lives in peace, although I must say, I'm puzzled that they believe the press will now leave them alone. The American press is no kinder that the British press, and Diana lost her life because she no longer had the security of a royal family member. They are now officially celebrities, no longer royals by definition. Paparazzi are relentless in pursuing celebrities; I hope they have themselves thoroughly barricaded in wherever they live in Canada & are afforded the privacy they deserve. I pray for Harry and Meghan. God bless them and keep them safe. Thanks for an informative post. I look forward to following them in the coming days/years.

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  70. My only problem with this agreement is the excuse the royal family came up with to justify the fact they've asked Harry and Meghan to stop styling themselves as HRH: they're no longer working members of the royal family...come on...so is Andrew and he's still using the HRH and his daughters also use the HRH but were never really required to work for the royal family. Also I don't think people really understood that they haven't been stripped of their HRH titles but were only asked to stop using them because all the papers around the world are reporting that "they are no longer HRH".

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    1. As I've gathered, they were asked to refrain from using their styles as they were granted permission to pursue activities which have a potential to enable them to be'financially independent'. Neither of the York Princesses use their styles in the context of their work as private individuals. The Duke of York is now officially 'retired' - out of sight, out of mind. Presumably Harry and Meghan will not fade into obscurity as their (global) philanthropic activities will surely be reported on hence, The Palace's insurance that they should not be seen as Royals in business, outside of Royal business.

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    2. Andrew is not out of sight, The Queen was with the Duke of York at church today; such a public show of public support of Duke of York. Something she never did for the Sussexes!!

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  71. The security issue is tricky, isn't it? I agree that Canada would not want to pay for that. In the US, ex presidents have lifetime security. I feel that the RF should pay for it because the reason they need security is because he was born a prince.

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  72. I do wish people would READ more carefully. (Thank you Charlotte for your always rational analysis of the matter.)

    Harry and Meghan have NOT traded royal status for celebrity status. Harry and Meghan DO remain royals by definition.

    They have retained their HRH status, but have chosen not to use it. They also choose not to undertake publicly funded royal duties; however, they will work to support the values of the monarchy in all that they do going forward.

    They retain certain patronages and their roles as President and Vice-president of the Commonwealth Trust. Others they will set aside.

    Their security is being discussed separately under the established protocols for security, but that's not being disclosed. Nor is their situation like Diana's. Because they still are royals, their HRH has not been stripped it makes sense that they will very likely be protected as such.

    Going forward, once the ink is dried on the contractual details, going forward they will be able to work toward financial independence. And likely as gesture of good faith and an attempt to silence taxpayers' accusations against them, they will pay for the renovations to Frogmore.

    I don't understand how people get such straightforward elements so woefully confused. You'd think that they'd chucked everything over. Poor little Harry giving up everything he's ever known. Where can anyone read that in the Queen's words?

    Sometimes continuing to endure the status quo because one is risk averse is stifling and untenable. Together with Meghan he's making changes he considers more appropriate for himself and their family (as we all do at various stages of our lives). All changes come with some positives, some negatives and usually a few surprises good or bad.

    Dearest Henny Penny, the sky is NOT falling. Relax. Let's enjoy how this new future plays out. We get front row seats on this blog.

    SMH (stands for Shaking My Head which is too long to type each time).

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  73. If I didn't already adore Queen Elizabeth, I certainly would after that loving, generous-hearted statement from her. Long live Her Majesty!

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  74. In the wedding photo that you posted, note that Harry and Meghan have eyes only for each other, while everyone in the background is looking the other way.

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  75. They are supposedly not supposed to use the HRH title, but then they used it in a new statement on their own website...so what's the point of even saying they are not going to use it? Confusing.

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  76. I am happy for Harry! I think this is what he has desired all along-to unshackle himself from being royalty and all that comes with it. I am wondering where they will ultimately choose to live. Toronto is where Meghan has a lot of friends, and it is a much shorter flight when they (or just Harry) wish to return to the UK for various reasons. On the other hand, Vancouver is much closer to Meghan’s mother and that is very important to her. Once Trump leaves office (please god let it be next year) then it is said they would like to have a place in Los Angeles to be even closer to Doris. I imagine there are taxation and visa issues that come with any of these scenarios. Your thoughts?

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  77. Usually never comment, but enjoy reading others' point of view. I concur with majority it's sad how things transpired, but the silver lining is regardless of all the privileges they had, just proves that money, fame, castles, tiaras don't buy happiness. This entire saga just shows people's true colours/character, but also should be a stark reminder to all of us to reflect on our own actions and how we treat and perceive each other as fellow human beings.
    Overall, it speaks volume of their character and how they chose to take the high road. In the end, Harry several times in past had said he always wanted/contemplated his own freedom and independence as an adult and for his family. At least now he wants to make a living on his own, rather than live off the British taxpayers. Now it's fair game, media and tax payers cannot say they have the right to treat them however because they pay their bills and upkeep. They are now independent, working citizens and have the right to their own freedom, privacy... Check mate!!
    Furthermore, Charles numerous times has stated he's slimming down monarchy in his reign to just the heirs and their family. Where would that have left Harry? His words/plans came back to bite him.
    History repeats itself, Margaret, queen's sister, Philippe of Spain's sister being stripped of title, recent announcement by Gustav of Sweden, removing grandchildren from royal household, etc...
    Harry wasn't naive, he knew the deal and always had the rough end. He put in the hard work, represented the monarchy exceptionally all along knowing full well that one day he will be relegated to the background or worse. So he decided, I'm out, while his grandmother is still alive and can vouch for him.
    Also, the tension and drama between him and William that might have developed or was created by outside influence and level of attention each garnered could have led to some jealousy between them and their families. Now they each have their own lives as they wanted and all we can do is wish them the best and respect their wishes and desires.
    Takes a lot of courage to step out and challenge the norms that have governed that institution for so many years, but also set a precedence that for all the others that despite their aristocracy, they too can go out and work like rest of us. Other monarchy members have and they too can/will be fine.

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  78. Whilst there have undoubtedly been racist elements to the treatment of Meghan by the press, the overwhelming bigotry displayed for me is sexism. In terms of royal coverage, it’s endemic and Meghan, being a divorced, biracial, American feminist was always going to be a prime target. Look at the treatment of every woman who has married into the RF from Diana onwards. Princess Eugenie and Jack Brooksbank dated for 8 years before marrying, yet I’ve never seen him called Waity Jack, or been accused of social climbing the way Kate was. (It’s obviously an issue for reporting on women across the board too).

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