13th century Persian poet and theologian Rumi wrote: "Before you speak, let your words pass through the gates: is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind?" I've pondered that quote over the past couple of years watching the coverage of Meghan unfold. I've considered the mindset of those who have devoted so much time and energy to disparaging the new addition to the Royal family. From reporters and commentators to rabid royalists and keyboard warriors, truth, necessity and kindness have been irrelevant factors in their quest to tear Meghan to pieces. I've often wondered, behind closed doors, what the true impact on her and Harry has been. As a newlywed, starting life in a new country in one of the most high-profile roles in the world, and becoming a mother under the tremendous strain of a relentless campaign of abuse. In her own words, Meghan has shared how very real that struggle has been whilst speaking to Tom Bradby for Harry and Meghan: An African Adventure.
“Any woman, especially when they’re pregnant, you’re really vulnerable, and so that was made really challenging,” she tells ITV news anchor Tom Bradby about the negative tabloid attention she received during her pregnancy and first months with son Archie, born May 6.
“Then when you have a newborn, you know. And especially as a woman, it’s a lot,” she adds. “So, you add this on top of just trying to be a new mom or trying to be a newlywed. It’s um . . . yeah. I guess, also thank you for asking, because not many people have asked if I’m okay, but it’s a very real thing to be going through behind the scenes.”
Bradby asked if it “would be fair” to say that she’s “not really okay, as in it’s really been a struggle?” to which Meghan responds, “yes.”
Seeing how sad and despondent Meghan looked is heartbreaking. Royal watching was once an exciting escapism, a fun way to enjoy one's love of the monarchy. The day Harry and Meghan got engaged that all changed - and it's certainly coloured my view of Royal family watching. I cannot imagine being on the world stage, treated so appallingly and having to continue as if all is normal, as if daily mistruths and character assassinations come with the territory. They don't. Bullying Meghan has become a national sport online and among the tabloid press. Each and every person involved needs to step back, watch the video, and ask themselves, how on earth they deem this acceptable or fair. I think of how happy Meghan was when she and Harry got engaged, her enthusiasm for her role and everything she's given up for the man she loves.
In response to the video, many on social media have been sharing posts with the hashtag #WeLoveYouMeghan
From the Diana Award's Anti-Bullying programme.
Harry and Meghan have a tough couple of years ahead with legal battles, it's not going to be easy for either of them. In so many ways, they have been robbed of much joy during what should be the happiest time of their lives. I hope and pray fairness and decency will prevail and Meghan will be treated in the same fashion as every other member of the family and, finally, receive the fair shot she was never given. As the hashtag says, #WeLoveYouMeghan
The documentary airs on ITV at 9 pm on Sunday. For those in the US, it will air on ABC Wednesday at 10 pm.
JUST ANNOUNCED: Prince Harry and Meghan open up about their life in the spotlight in documentary filmed during their tour of South Africa. Tune in to “Harry & Meghan: An African Journey," hosted by @RobinRoberts Oct. 23 at 10PM ET on @ABCNetwork! https://t.co/aX1dLpAxEI pic.twitter.com/nWb40vTRp0— Good Morning America (@GMA) October 17, 2019
We'll see Meghan on Tuesday for the opening ceremony of the One Young World Summit at the Royal Albert Hall.